The Only Three Dating Rules You Need: Know Your Reds, Greens, and Yellows.

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

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Religion & Spirituality, Default, Talk Radio, Christianity

4.8 • 808 Ratings

🗓️ 13 November 2018

⏱️ 22 minutes

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Summary

Dating rules and advice can change with the passing of time. (Hence, I Kissed Dating Goodbye in 1990 vs True Love Dates in 2018- which is $1.99 on Kindle right now for all you bargain hunters out there ) But there are a few concepts about dating and relationships that won’t change no matter what’s going on in our culture. Today’s caller is looking for some dating advice. She’s wondering how to know if she’s giving a relationship enough time to play out, or if she’s ending the relationships too early. THE THREE DATING RULES YOU NEED In today’s episode, I’m going to talk her through some basic dating rules using the red, green, and yellow flag concept. The greens are the things you need in a a relationship – things you’re on the lookout for. The yellows are your preferences, or even the unknowns – things that will probably end up either in the red, or the green category with time. And the reds are the things you’ll never, ever, settle for – things that signify it’s time to STOP this relationship. You’ve got to understand and know your reds, greens, and yellows in order to have a chance at a successful dating relationship. You need to get good at recognizing what works, from what doesn’t. Because you’ve have to know when to keep moving forward in a relationship, and when to walk away. Tune in to Episode 019 of the Love + Relationships Podcast today, and let’s talk through your red, green, and yellow list! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out the episode about Junk Food Relationships: Healthy Relationships Aren’t Convenient Or check out this mini episode and find out what I think about the concept of “Finding The One“. Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hey, friends, welcome back to the Love and Relationships podcast. I'm your host, Deborah Feleda,
0:23.1	and I'm so excited to have the chance to have these candid conversations with you about love,
0:28.6	sex, dating, singleness, and marriage. For those of you who don't know me, or if you're tuning in
0:33.5	for the first time, I'm a licensed professional counselor specializing in relationship issues.
0:39.3	I also run the Relationship Advice blog, TrueLovDates.com, reaching millions of people with the
0:45.0	message of healthy relationships. And as you'll find out about me, that's something I'm really
0:50.1	passionate about. If you've tuned into this podcast for a while, you know that it's generally
0:54.7	a hotline style podcast, meaning people call in with the relationship questions and we talk
0:59.8	through them on the show. But because I've received so many of your questions, I decided I needed
1:06.4	to do these little mini episodes where I'll be taking the questions that you've sent my way via
1:11.4	email or voice memo and I'll be answering them in short, practical, bite-sized answers in these
1:18.0	mini episodes. If you have a question that you want me to answer on the show, make sure to send it
1:23.2	via email or voice memo to Deborah at true lovedates.com and I'll do my best to get it answered on one of
1:29.8	the episodes. So let's get started. Hi, Deborah. My name is Carissa and I'm from Bismarck, North
1:42.8	Dakota. So I've done a lot of online dating,
1:47.0	but I've never been in a committed relationship. I take relationships very serious and always cut
1:55.9	things off sooner rather than later because I don't want to hurt anybody by, you know, letting it go on too long.
2:02.5	But I'm starting to wonder if I'm not giving these guys enough of a chance and cutting it off because I'm scared of the unknown.
2:11.1	Or am I just overthinking this and it's okay?
2:15.6	And I just need to be patient.
2:21.7	As always, thank you for your ministry. I appreciate your advice and your wisdom and you truly are a blessing. Thank you.
2:33.3	Thank you, Carissa, for that great question. I think this is really important. And I'm glad we're covering this topic today because there's a lot of you out there who are wondering, like, how am I too picky or how do I know when I should cut off a relationship or when do I decide, you know, that things
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