Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

Do you ever feel self-conscious?

Self-conscious.

I will let you know that, you know, being a life coach now, my 11th year full time, self-help

being my biggest passion, I'm not very self-conscious anymore. Maybe occasionally in a new

setting with new people who I think are really cool or people I'd like to have relationships

with or learn from. Maybe I feel some feelings of being self-conscious around making

sure I'm making enough of a contribution or that people know that I'm really listening and paying

attention. And so I'm conscious of my being. I'm conscious of what I say. But I know that feeling

self-conscious is very, very common. I mean, think about it. We're making it about us the self-conscious.

And when we're focused on ourselves, we can't really relax because our focus is inward instead of

outward. Now, I wrote an article for Oprah about this, which I called situational shyness, can often be interspersed with or exchanged with the

expression self-conscious. Think about it this way. Are you shy around your kids, your partner,

your best friend, your parents? No. But maybe around people you want to impress or new people

or in a setting where you're not familiar

you might have these thoughts these feelings of my gosh you know what are my hands doing did I say

something stupid how am I standing what should I say should I speak up should I raise my hand

I get it right we're all human beings and in a new setting where it doesn't feel completely safe necessarily,

it's easy to go inward. And you can kind of hear the inner voice, right? Oh, am I doing okay?

Is this okay? Am I acting weird? Am I acting cool? Like, what's going on? My tip here is simple.

When you feel self-conscious, this is what I do. If I'm in a setting where I feel,

oh, I'm, you know, I'm not completely comfortable here and I'm conscious of what I'm, you know,

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