Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life

lessons and revelations. I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated. I want to start with this.

Gone is holding on to things that don't belong to you.

This is a big, big concept. It's something I talk about a lot. I believe when we hold

on to things that don't belong to us, it puts cracks in our life space, our life container.

Right, so for example, tracing parents' blueprints, right, what your parents want for you. And you, whether you're

consciously or subconsciously tracing those, doing things for your parents instead

of yourself, that's an example. Living other people's shoulds, right?

Hold you on to grudges from people who have who have hurt you and now looking back you know that it was their way of surviving

right so them hurting you had more to do with them than you.

It was about their anxiety, it was about their reactions, their wiring, their projection. their

projections, you know, and so I think

letting go of grudges which can be stones in our shoe right?

Gone is saying your board unless you're four.

Stop fucking saying you're bored. Life is too short to be bored.

You can be sad, you can be discouraged, you can be angry, you can be a lot of things but to say you're bored that

that is gone no longer gone is eating your feelings gone is dreading, complaining, going through the motions of life without being aware of

how you and your energy impact others.

I used to be this guy who hijacked spaces.

I would go into a room and I would

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