Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life

lessons and revelations. I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated.

Talking about trauma bonds, right? What is the definition then? This is something a term we hear all the time.

Bonding through trauma. Trauma being the glue, you know, what is your definition of a trauma button?

So this is an area that often gets taken up on social media and kind of misdefined, and so I think

it's important words matter matter and it's important that we know what we're

talking about we're talking about a trauma bond because it doesn't mean we went through a trauma

together right that's that's something different it doesn't mean Stockholm Syndrome that's something different. It doesn't mean Stockholm Syndrome that's something

different. A trauma bond happens when you have unresolved things in one or

both people and you know John was talking last night about the dynamic

so you have each person and then you have the relationship dynamic

the unresolved stuff gets fed into the dynamic

and then creates the situation where you have intermittent abuse and very intense

affection and connection. And so that abuse can take many, many forms. It

doesn't necessarily have to be physical, it could be

emotional, it could be pretty covert, psychological abuse. I think it's very

important that we understand that often when people are abusive, it's not a

willing thing. It's something that's happening compulsively,

which doesn't mean it's okay, of course, but...

It could be a reaction to their story, their wiring, right? It could be them coping, right, yeah.

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