The Most Helpful Response When Your Child Gets Hurt (4 Guidelines)

Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

JLML Press

Kids & Family, Parenting

4.7 • 3.8K Ratings

🗓️ 28 January 2020

⏱️ 19 minutes

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Janet offers basic guidelines for responding mindfully when children get hurt, whether by accident or as the result of another child's behavior. She also addresses the specifics in a parent's note about her son's emotional responses to getting pushed or hit when she isn't close enough to prevent it. She says he seems "shocked" but fine, but he falls apart when adults surround him and express their urgent concern. “I can tell that it’s the reactions from the adults that has really upset and scared him.” While she hopes to prevent future events like this from happening in the first place, she knows that won’t always be possible, and she wonders how Janet would advise calming her son in the aftermath. For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ. Paperbacks and e-books are also available at Amazon, Google Play, Barnes & Noble and Apple Books. Janet's exclusive audio series "Sessions" is available for download. This is a collection of recorded one-on-one consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (www.SessionsAudio.com). Our Sponsors:* Check out BabyQuip and use my code UNRUFFLED for a great deal: http://www.babyquip.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hi, this is Janet Landsbury, welcome to Unruffold.
0:05.0	Today I'm responding to a note I received about incidences where our child gets hurt by
0:12.1	another child and in this case her child got very upset not because of the incident but
0:18.8	because of the responses to it from other people.
0:22.8	So I'm going to speak specifically to that and also kind of generalize this topic and offer
0:28.4	some basic guidelines for responding when a child is hurt could be something that happens
0:34.7	on their own, an accident or they trip or they fall, or it is instigated by another child.
0:43.1	So I'll be sharing some thoughts to keep in mind when these things happen so that we
0:47.6	can respond in a way that helps our child process the experience and receive the messages
0:53.0	about themselves and their lives that we want them to receive.
0:59.4	Alrighty now here's the note.
1:01.4	Hello Janet, hope you're well, my son is almost too and your advice has been so helpful to us.
1:06.4	I've had a few experiences recently with another child pushing or hitting my son when
1:11.2	I'm not close enough to prevent it.
1:13.4	I'm watching him from no more than five feet away which seems close at the time but so far
1:18.9	when something happens.
1:20.4	As I'm watching his face and body language after the incident, he seems a little shocked but fine.
1:26.4	However, the adults who are closer to him will quickly react rushing to his side saying
1:30.7	things like, are you okay?
1:33.1	This is happening while I'm coming towards him and by the time I'm there with him he's
1:37.0	so upset and emotional, it just happens so fast.
1:41.2	I can tell that it's the reactions from the adults that have really upset and scared
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