On today's episode, we're going to talk about the misconception of emotional suppression,

a.k.a. the soda can effect. All right. So the struggle is this. Most of us grew up in a space

where we heard messages, whether literally or even kind of like subconsciously as family sets a tone,

um,

stop crying.

Be strong,

you know?

A lot of times when we're growing up,

if you were crying,

then,

uh,

it made your parents uncomfortable.

So they would tell you to stop.

So they could be more comfortable,

you know? And I want to share something as I'm saying this. I'm remembering something. So yesterday,

my daughter, my daughter screams at me. And she is not just screaming. She is fucking no filter like dad dad i'm going to rip you a new asshole kind of

scream right and of course there's a part of me that's like stop it you know you don't get to

talk to daddy that way but what's interesting and this is the way that i look at it that's been really

helpful is she's fully expressing that way. But what's interesting, and this is the way that I look at it that's been really helpful,

is she's fully expressing herself, whether that is anger or love or whatever that emotion is,

because she's unafraid, because there are no consequences. So if she gets, you know, to the state of rage, she feels

comfortable to express that with me because I don't hit her. I mean, I might yell back a little bit,

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