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🗓️ 29 April 2017
⏱️ 21 minutes
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This week, Dr. Dan Allender continues our series about the Marriage Quadrants, a theoretical framework of marriage that informs how he engages and works with couples. Dan talks about marriages in Quadrant One, which are often marked by comfort and safety but lack desire and authenticity. As pastors, therapists, and friends, what does it look like for us to engage this kind of couple—and their children—with courage and integrity? And for a visual aid as you listen to Dan discussing these categories, look for this episode on our blog at theallendercenter.org.
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0:00.0 | You're listening to the Allender Center podcast with Dr. Dan Allender. |
0:12.0 | This week, Dan continues our series about the marriage quadrants, a theoretical framework of marriage that informs how he engages and works with couples. |
0:21.6 | Dan talks about marriages in Quadrant 1, which are often marked by comfort and safety, |
0:27.6 | but lack desire and authenticity. As pastors, therapists, and friends, |
0:32.6 | what does it look like for us to engage this kind of couple and their children with courage |
0:38.3 | and integrity? |
0:40.0 | And for a visual aid as you listen to Dan discussing these categories, look for this episode |
0:45.0 | on our blog at the Allander Center.org. |
0:50.7 | We're beginning to look at the different marriages. And we'll start with Quadrant 1. |
0:55.9 | And that is a marriage of convenience, comfortability, and many ways of control from too much affiliation in that sense that there can be a warmth there in quadrant one, but not an intensity of desire. |
1:15.7 | And a desire in many ways to conform to whatever world defines it as good, so that in many |
1:25.5 | ways there's not the need to actually offer individuation and therefore |
1:31.3 | the risk of choice. |
1:33.3 | So in that sense, you can see the marriage in quadrant one is a marriage lived on the couch, |
1:39.3 | watching TV, watching other people live. |
1:42.3 | And indeed, if it's not just on the couch, it's a tepid, |
1:47.9 | faithful, loyal, often what I would call a middle class, maybe lower middle class family, |
1:59.5 | in that it doesn't require much of the husband-wife, |
2:04.9 | doesn't require much of them in their own work and labor. |
2:09.5 | As I've underlined, there won't be a great deal of ambition, kind of a dreaming and therefore |
2:16.4 | risking to create on behalf of oneself and one's family. |
2:21.1 | With regard to vacations, with regard to work, this is your faithful middle management male or female. |
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