The Man Who Made Me Rethink My Marriage with Amber Rae

Girls Gotta Eat

Ashley Hesseltine

Relationships, Society & Culture, Dating, Comedy, Sex, 977170

4.6 • 29.2K Ratings

🗓️ 20 October 2025

⏱️ 82 minutes

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Summary

Amber Rae was married when she looked into the eyes of a stranger and instantly fell in love, and she’s here to tell her story. The bestselling author shares the truth about her marriage and lack of intimacy, what she was lying to herself about, the problem with “good on paper guy,” being a people pleaser, and how falling for someone else while married turned her world upside down. We talk about how everything transpired, how her husband watched her fall in love in real time, backlash and losing friends over her decisions, and more. Before Amber joins us, we’re recapping Ashley’s special filming and Rayna seeing an old hookup 15 years later. Enjoy!

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0:00.0	So four years ago, while married, I looked into the eyes of a stranger and I had this knowing feeling of he's your person.
0:24.3	This podcast is a Dear Media production.
0:25.7	Hi guys.
0:26.3	Hi guys.
0:28.5	Welcome back to another episode of Girls Got to eat.
0:29.4	Welcome back.
0:31.0	Hopefully we're coming off in Eagles win.
0:32.4	Maybe.
0:33.0	Maybe.
0:34.9	I was to say.
0:36.6	We are playing the Vikings.
0:54.3	Steelers beat the Vikings. Yeah. And while we're here, thank you guys for coming out to my Minneapolis shows. I had a great time, Raina. I just hated being there without you. I love those people so much. I love Minneapolis. I love performing. Truly the best. You have been breadcrumbing living in certain places, but Minneapolis, you hard were like, I will live here.
1:01.6	I was like, we will build sets in different cities. And you won't know we're in the same cities. You'll be in Minneapolis. I'll be in New York.
1:01.6	I just, I told that when I got a stage.
1:04.0	I was like, I feel so safe, you guys.
1:05.4	It's giving Canada.
1:06.1	We're close.
1:06.8	We can get up there if we need to escape.
1:09.0	But it's just, it's such a great city.
1:10.8	It's like a perfect city.
1:12.0	Everyone's nice.
1:12.6	I'll die on this hill.
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