The Little People Inside Of You
The R Spot with Iyanla
Shondaland Audio and iHeartPodcasts
4.9 • 908 Ratings
🗓️ 15 February 2023
⏱️ 45 minutes
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Summary
This week, Iyanla explores the idea of the broken parts of ourselves that everyone holds inside them, yearning for what they never got as children. Iyanla’s first caller is a woman who feels like she can’t heal the broken parts inside of her, even though she can recognize that there’s a problem. And the second caller desperately wants to be able to love and take care of her mom, who is ill, but can’t seem to show the love she’s always wanted to receive. Iyanla shares the story of how she named and tamed her inner children.
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| 0:00.0 | I amla. I had a baby daddy relationship. I spent time in a relationship with a married man. |
| 0:11.6 | I had to learn the skills and tools required. with a Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with IHeart Radio. I don't think people really understand that in addition to our external relationships with people that we have an internal relationship with people that we have an internal relationship |
| 0:46.2 | going on with people. And one of the most important internal relationships that we have is a relationship that we have with the pieces and parts of ourselves that have walked through our life experiences. There's a part of you that remembers not being |
| 1:07.5 | picked for the team. There's a part of you that remembers failing that |
| 1:11.5 | spelling test. There's a part of you that remembers |
| 1:14.4 | Daddy not being home. There's a part of you that remembers your mom didn't yell at your brother the way here. There's a part of you. These are the little people inside of us and |
| 1:24.0 | although we mature and grow up, they don't. And it is important, it is absolutely |
| 1:30.6 | essential to our well-being to have a good relationship with the pieces and parts of us |
| 1:38.8 | because if we don't those pieces and parts of us are going to run our lives and no place do they show up quicker, |
| 1:48.3 | faster and more dysfunctionally than in our relationships with other people. |
| 1:55.0 | Because anything that they want, anything that they need, |
| 1:59.0 | they're going to send you searching for it outside. We all have them and my guest today has identified some |
| 2:09.3 | of her pieces and parts. Listen. and Challenge issue dilemma that we can chew on together today. |
| 2:25.0 | Oh yes, thank you so much. |
| 2:27.0 | My challenge is, as I heal, how do I release feelings of blame about a lot of what I'm healing from coming from childhood and family that had their own unheeled trauma and etc. |
| 2:43.8 | But then I picked up these behaviors and mindset. |
| 2:47.6 | I want to go forward in my healing |
| 2:49.9 | and not feel this blame. I think I carry a little bit for people that I do love and |
| 2:56.8 | want to remain in relationship with, but I don't want to keep going back to this is where this came from and those negative feelings about it and what boundaries would look like to continue being in relationship with them if they've not changed. |
| 3:14.1 | Okay, so are you blaming them or are they blaming you? |
| 3:19.7 | I'm blaming them for... I'm blaming them for things in childhood, you know, when you get molested you |
| 3:27.2 | weren't being protected when you tell about being molested and you don't go to |
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