Hi and welcome back to the Carol Markowitz show on I-Heart Radio. This is a show about the beauty of marriage, the importance of family,

the way to live a good life. But there are a lot of listeners and some of them write to me or

comment to me who are single and don't want to be but don't know how to meet someone.

When I try to give single friends or acquaintances advice, they say things like,

it's not like it was when you were single because obviously

I'm like 300 years old and have been married since birth. The truth is yes things

have changed a little bit I've never dated someone I met on the internet for

example and this is a big change from what happens now. But I think the basics

should generally still be the same. You meet someone, you hit it off, you date, you get married, right?

No, no, people tell me, that's not at all how it works today. Now you alert someone to your

interest on an app, wait for them to respond,

message back and forth for a few days, then potentially have a call, and then maybe

someday meet them in person, and then never hear from them again.

But what if you didn't follow this model?

I'm not anti meeting someone online.

I have kind of mixed feelings about it. I get that that's where a lot of the

interaction happens now and that's where you could hit it off with someone and

maybe make something work. But this method is clearly not working for many people. I think you need to see

dating apps like being in a crowded bar. You can spot someone across the bar,

smile at them, and then have a conversation to

determine if this can go any further. But when you're in a bar, you're not

having like five conversations with people. That's just not going to work. I

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