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The Mel Robbins Podcast

The “It” Factor: How to Hack Charisma & Use Body Language to Boost Your Influence, Income, and Impact

The Mel Robbins Podcast

SiriusXM Podcasts

Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Relationships, Health & Fitness

4.615.3K Ratings

🗓️ 1 December 2022

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Summary

Buckle up and get ready to take notes because this episode is a masterclass. The tools you’re about to learn will help you become more confident, influential, and even make more money. Today, we’re talking about The “It” Factor. Some people just seem to have IT, right? When I think of The It Factor, people like Oprah, The Rock, Taylor Swift, the Dalai Lama, and Martin Luther King, Jr. come to mind. These people make you want to lean in, join in, and learn more. So today we’re asking… What is “It” that some people have that makes us automatically trust and like them? And, more importantly, how can you get it? Here to answer that question is Vanessa Van Edwards, a best-selling author, researcher, and founder of the behavior lab The Science of People. I cannot wait for you to dig into what she has researched. Turns out The It Factor has another name: charisma. And the good news? YOU can learn how to have charisma, starting today. You’re going to want to. Research finds that charismatic people are more influential, earn a higher income, and have a bigger impact at work, in their communities, and in their relationships. The secret to hacking it? Social cues, like body language and the way you speak. That’s why today’s episode is a masterclass. You’ll learn… Shocking research from Princeton about how people size you up 3 things you must do in the first 10 seconds of a Zoom call Tips for nailing an interview The major mistake you’re making as you speak How to ask for a raise A simple test that will help you figure out how charismatic you are Why you never want to fake a smile Tips for charisma for introverts Why a second impression is as important as the first That’s just the tip of the iceberg. Today’s episode is jam-packed with simple, tactical research and tools that will help you and anyone you care about develop the skill of charisma. And you deserve that. Xo Mel Join the free 5-day Wake Up Challenge with me and master your morning routine here. All show notes for this episode can be found at melrobbins.com/podcast Check out the video version of this podcast on my YouTube channel here.

Transcript

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0:00.0

Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to an amazing buckle up your seat belt episode

0:07.0

of the Mel Robbins Podcast.

0:14.4

Guess what we're talking about today?

0:16.2

You and me, baby.

0:17.2

We're talking about the it factor.

0:19.9

That's right, the it factor.

0:20.9

I don't know how to say it, but we're talking about it.

0:23.1

Some people just have it, don't they?

0:25.8

Just think about who you admire that has the it factor.

0:30.4

I'll give you my list, Oprah, the rock, the Dolly Lama, Taylor Swift.

0:34.9

Oh, and the late Robin Williams and Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

0:40.2

Those folks, they have the it factor.

0:42.5

Why?

0:43.5

Well, because they have this ability to make me lean in and care about what they're saying.

0:48.5

We not only admire folks like this, but we like them, and we trust them.

0:54.4

That is the heart of having the it factor.

0:58.0

And based on the research, when people have the it factor, you know what it means?

1:02.2

It means they have charisma.

1:05.6

Charisma is a really cool thing because charisma will make you more influential.

1:10.6

It'll help you make a bigger impact.

1:12.4

And charisma absolutely is going to help you make some money because according to the

1:17.6

research, 82% of people's impression of you is based on whether or not you display

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