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The Overwhelmed Brain

The intense pain, longing, and pining over the one who left

The Overwhelmed Brain

Paul Colaianni: Emotional Abuse and Relationship Expert

Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

4.52K Ratings

🗓️ 21 September 2025

⏱️ 35 minutes

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Summary

If you're struggling with the feeling of emptiness after a breakup or loss, is it really about them, or something deeper within you? I'll share my own experiences with heartbreak and loneliness, and why understanding our emotional dependencies might just be the key to healing and building healthier relationships.

Transcript

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0:00.0

These are my personal opinions. Always seek a professional when you're making choices about your mental health and well-being.

0:11.5

One thing I notice as I get older is that my attention span is shorter.

0:18.4

I blame that on the internet. I blame it on so much coming at me at once. You could

0:26.7

probably relate. And so, you know, I used to take my phone with me everywhere I go and I kind of still

0:33.8

do. But there's one place I go now that I've decided to take a book. I decided

0:40.4

to start reading again. Doesn't mean I couldn't read or didn't read before, but I actually

0:46.2

replaced my bathroom material, if you need to know, with a book. Because in there with a phone looking at reels looking at all this

0:57.6

other stuff I realized it was it felt like it was rewiring my brain and so I'm reading now

1:03.8

I'm really enjoying it I'm enjoying the fiction I used to read the sci-fi all that, and I think it's helping me ground again.

1:14.0

I want my brain back.

1:16.0

I don't want it to be lost in all these different nodes of the internet in the universe.

1:23.8

And I don't want to lose my place when I'm in a conversation or even doing this show.

1:30.4

So I started reading again and I think that has helped me ground.

1:34.9

And why am I sharing this?

1:36.7

Because maybe somebody out there needs to hear it.

1:40.1

Maybe you're on your phone all the time and you need to hear it or maybe somebody that you care

1:44.3

about is 24-7 on their phone, laptop, tablet, and then listening to something and then always

1:52.8

occupying their mind. There is something to be said about deoccupying your mind, about

1:59.4

clearing it. And so as I've cleared it, as I've sat in nature without my phone, without distractions,

2:07.6

and as I've sat inside with a book,

2:10.6

but then I'll put on a video while I'm cooking or washing the dishes,

2:15.6

I found more balance.

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