The Hidden Relationship Trap: How Negative Narratives Sabotage Love with Jillian Turecki

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Eric Zimmer, The One You Feed

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🗓️ 14 February 2025

⏱️ 74 minutes

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In this episode, Jillian Turecki delves into relationships, the hidden relationship trap, and how negative narratives sabotage love. Jillian emphasizes the internal battle we face between positive and negative thoughts, likening our minds to battlefields. She highlights the importance of not believing every thought that crosses our minds and instead tuning into our hearts and instincts for a more fulfilling life. Key Takeaways: [00:05:20] Relationship dynamics and interpretations. [00:12:17] Relationship resistance and patterns. [00:15:14] Responsibility in toxic relationships. [00:18:04] Taking responsibility for love life. [00:22:14] Relationship patterns and personal growth. [00:29:01] Accountability in relationships. [00:30:27] Truth as medicine in relationships. [00:39:08] Making peace with unhealthy habits. [00:44:26] Relationship accountability and needs. [00:50:22] Importance of genuine appreciation. [00:52:56] Relationship positivity ratio. [00:57:12] Emotional patterns in relationships. [01:04:38] Fear driving relationship behaviors. [01:05:58] Effective communication strategies. [01:10:56] Positive intent in relationships. [01:16:36] Healing from heartbreak. For full show notes, click here! If you enjoyed this conversation, check out these other episodes: How to Make Great Relationships with Dr. Rick Hanson Dr. Sue Johnson on Navigating Romantic Relationships Cindy Stulberg on Relationships Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	People love to play the blame game in a relationship.
0:03.0	And we're projecting all the time.
0:05.0	We'll blame a partner for not making us feel enough when not enough is how we felt entering the relationship.
0:15.0	Welcome to the one you feed. Throughout time, great thinkers have recognized the importance of the thoughts we have. Quotes like garbage in, garbage out, or you are what you think, ring true. And yet, for many of us, our thoughts don't strengthen or empower us. We tend toward negativity, self-pity, jealousy, or fear.
0:40.5	We see what we don't have instead of what we do. We think things that hold us back and dampen
0:45.8	our spirit. But it's not just about thinking. Our actions matter. It takes conscious,
0:51.6	consistent, and creative effort to make a life worth living.
0:55.4	This podcast is about how other people keep themselves moving in the right direction, how they feed their good wolf.
1:04.0	What if the way you see yourself, the stories you tell about who you are, aren't just shaping your relationships, but sabotaging
1:12.7	them.
1:13.9	We walk through life convinced that our version of reality is the reality.
1:18.5	But what if it's not?
1:20.0	What if the reason you keep ending up in the same arguments, the same heartbreaks, the
1:24.2	same lonely places isn't because of what's happening to you, but because
1:28.3	of the narratives running inside you. Today's guest, Jillian Torecki, is a relationship coach
1:34.0	who spent two decades helping people rewrite their emotional stories. And in this conversation,
1:40.2	she says something that really stopped me. She says, we blame a partner for not making us feel enough
1:45.6	when not enough is how we felt entering the relationship.
1:49.2	Yes, sit with that one for a second.
1:51.1	In this episode, we're breaking down the mental loops
1:53.4	that keep us stuck in unhealthy dynamics,
1:56.5	whether that's in our romantic relationships,
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