People love to play the blame game in a relationship.

And we're projecting all the time.

We'll blame a partner for not making us feel enough when not enough is how we felt entering the relationship.

Welcome to the one you feed. Throughout time, great thinkers have recognized the importance of the thoughts we have. Quotes like garbage in, garbage out, or you are what you think, ring true. And yet, for many of us, our thoughts don't strengthen or empower us. We tend toward negativity, self-pity, jealousy, or fear.

We see what we don't have instead of what we do. We think things that hold us back and dampen

our spirit. But it's not just about thinking. Our actions matter. It takes conscious,

consistent, and creative effort to make a life worth living.

This podcast is about how other people keep themselves moving in the right direction, how they feed their good wolf.

What if the way you see yourself, the stories you tell about who you are, aren't just shaping your relationships, but sabotaging

them.

We walk through life convinced that our version of reality is the reality.

But what if it's not?

What if the reason you keep ending up in the same arguments, the same heartbreaks, the

same lonely places isn't because of what's happening to you, but because

of the narratives running inside you. Today's guest, Jillian Torecki, is a relationship coach

who spent two decades helping people rewrite their emotional stories. And in this conversation,

she says something that really stopped me. She says, we blame a partner for not making us feel enough

when not enough is how we felt entering the relationship.

Yes, sit with that one for a second.

In this episode, we're breaking down the mental loops

that keep us stuck in unhealthy dynamics,

whether that's in our romantic relationships,

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