Every parent wants what's best for our kids. Sometimes that means we have to intervene, to offer some discipline perhaps or correction.

If you work too hard at that though there's a chance

there could be some rebellion and we'll explain more as we go along today.

Thanks for joining us. I'm John Fuller along with Dr. Danny where to

he leads our parenting team here at the ministry and Danny you've seen this I

know as a counselor and therapist as a life coach. You've seen discipline employed in a negative way and

it's got some consequences for the kids that aren't very pretty.

Yeah, and that was the heart behind the seven traits

of effective parenting.

Okay.

Because it's a balance of warmth and sensitivity

and love and guidance in discipline and correction. It's a balance of the. and So if it's all rules, you're going to create some

momentum in your child that are really can be

self-destructive. One is fear and shame. And I've

seen that in kids that are a little bit more of the timid or the peacemaker types, the

rule followers, and they get corrected and over-corrected. All of a sudden you see the

fear, the shame, they don't feel worthy of other people.

Sometimes panic disorder comes in in that.

And then you have kids that are more of the leader types

and they get over corrected and you see anger and rebellion, sometimes you see sneakiness with that and especially the social types.

So you see a response, a reaction from the child trying to react to that and if a parent's too permissive then also you

you know giving no rules and no correction you get other issues as well with the child

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