The Gottmans on Compatability, Conflict & Conversation

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Health & Fitness, Sexuality

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🗓️ 29 September 2021

⏱️ 58 minutes

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Summary

No one goes to relationship school, so Dr. John & Julie Gottman created the Gottman Institute to find out what makes relationships work. As today’s guests (and partners for over 30 years), the Gottmans talk about their iconic research, including the myth of compatibility, the four behaviors that tank a relationship, and what is UP with pheromones and attraction. Yep: we’re talking t-shirt smell test.

We’re also taking a research-based approach to conflict, and finding out how curiosity and conversation can help you navigate it. Finally, we discuss the Gottmans’ book Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love and take your Instagram questions about vulnerability, attraction, and how to stay sexually connected -- even when you’re exhausted.

For more information about Drs John and Julie Gottman, visit: gottman.com

Show Notes:

Book: For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality by Lonnie Barbach

App: Gottman Card Decks

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0:00.0	No, we found in a very large study we did that 40,000 gay lesbians and heterosexual couples,
0:13.0	80% of them said that fun had come to die in their relationship.
0:18.0	People stopped really romancing one another.
0:20.7	They stopped playing together and having fun and really having an erotic life with one
0:26.4	another.
0:30.4	You're listening to Sex with Emily.
0:32.0	I'm Dr. Amali and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation
0:37.6	around sex.
0:39.2	No one goes to relationship school.
0:41.1	So Dr. John and Julie Gottman created the Gottman Institute to find out what makes relationships
0:46.9	work.
0:48.1	As today's guests and partners for over 30 years, the Gottman's talk about their iconic
0:53.4	research, including the myth of compatibility, the four behaviors that tank a relationship,
0:59.9	and what is up with Fairmones and attraction.
1:03.3	Finally, we discussed the Gottman's book, Eight Dates, Essential Conversations for a Life
1:08.4	Time of Love, Intentions with Emily.
1:11.1	For each episode, join me in setting an intention for the show.
1:14.6	So what I mean is when you're listening, what do you want to get out of this episode?
1:18.2	While my intention was easy, I couldn't wait to introduce you to the revolutionary work
1:22.8	of Dr. John and Julie Gottman.
1:25.1	So you can use their groundbreaking research and apply it to your own relationships.
1:30.3	Please rate and review Sex with Emily wherever you're listening.
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