The Gottman Doctors: "Women Tend to Be More Unhappily Married", 96% Of Non-Cuddlers Have An Awful Sex Life & Why One Night Stands Are Dangerous!

The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

FlightStory

Society & Culture, Business, Education

4.6 • 13.2K Ratings

🗓️ 28 March 2024

⏱️ 128 minutes

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If over half of marriages end in divorce, what are the skills to make sure your relationship stays in the successful 50%? Drs. John and Julie Gottman are world leading relationship researchers that have been studying couples for over 40 years, publishing over 200 academic journal articles and 46 books. They are the co-founders of The Gottman Institute and Love Lab. In this conversation the Gottman’s and Steven discuss topics such as, the 3 skills you need for a healthy relationship, the steps to repair a relationship after an argument, why kissing can extend your life, and how cuddling leads to a better sex life. You can purchase the Gottman’s new book, ‘Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict into Connection’, here: https://amzn.to/3TDm5Fx Follow the Gottman’s: Twitter - https://bit.ly/3xcZA2z Instagram - https://bit.ly/4cC2UVl YouTube - https://bit.ly/4awssRS Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/3kxINCANKsb My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://smarturl.it/DOACbook Follow me: https://beacons.ai/diaryofaceo Sponsors: ZOE: http://joinzoe.com with an exclusive code CEO2024 for 10% off Linkedin Ads: https://www.linkedin.com/doac24 Shop the Conversation Cards: https://thediary.com/products/the-cards Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Women tend to be more uncappily married than men.
0:03.0	And 80% of the time, women bring up problems in a relationship.
0:08.0	But 69% of all problems are not self-able.
0:12.0	So if you rely on problems getting solved as an indicator of the success of the relationship,
0:18.0	it's not going to look good.
0:20.0	Dr. John and Dr. Julie Got Me.
0:22.0	World-renowned researchers and clinical psychologists who have been married 36 years and have spent the last 50 years studying love.
0:29.0	You made something called The Love Lab. What is that?
0:32.0	We followed 3,000 couples it taught us the difference
0:34.9	between what masters of relationship do and what disasters do what advice would you
0:40.3	give to me then cuttle 96% of non-cuddlers had an awful sex life.
0:45.0	Anything else? Yes. The hookup culture is thriving. Is that a problem? Yes. Why?
0:51.0	Okay, so let me point out something that everybody needs to hear.
0:55.0	So...
0:56.0	And also kissing is very powerful.
0:58.0	Men who kiss their wives goodbye when they leave for work live four years longer than men who don't.
1:04.8	In your research you found that during conflict couples who show four key behaviors
1:08.4	mean that an argument is doomed.
1:10.4	Yes, and they are criticism.
1:12.8	Defensiveness.
1:13.8	The third one was the worst, and that was...
1:16.2	That was the best predictor of relationship breakup.
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