Moment 155: The "Post Date 8" Questions You Need To Ask To Find 'The One' - Logan Ury

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🗓️ 29 March 2024

⏱️ 10 minutes

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In this moment, behavioural expert and dating coach, Logan Ury discusses the 3 fundamental things to look for in a partner. Too often people have a rigid list of exact traits that they want in their future partner in relationship science this is called, ‘relationship shopping’. This is the idea of shopping for your partner like you would do with any product online. However, more often than not, people end up in a long term relationship with someone who has none of these traits. The reason for this is that while people may think they know what they want, they are wrong. Instead, Logan says you need to date like a scientist, experimenting and constantly changing your hypothesis of what you want in a partner. This can be achieved by using Logan’s 8 questions to ask yourself after a date, the focus of this is examining who are you around that person, and what side of you do they bring out, as this is who you will be for the rest of the relationship. Listen to the full episode here Apple - https://g2ul0.app.link/sXZ3OZpToHb Spotify - https://g2ul0.app.link/nAu4hnmToHb Watch the Episodes On Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/%20TheDiaryOfACEO/videos Logan: https://www.loganury.com https://www.instagram.com/loganury/?hl=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:30.0	Some of the things that I used to go for when I was younger when I was looking for a perfect partner,
0:38.4	I would be able to reel off things like I want this color hair and I want them to look like this and I want this this this it was like a shopping list like apples plums it was like everything was on there
0:49.0	As I got a little bit older and I did a little bit of hindsight research on what I was actually
0:54.4	looking for, the list reduced and it became more about fundamental things and I got down to these
0:59.7	three things I thought you need in a partner to be happy I'm going to run these things
1:04.5	past you and get your thoughts I believe you need a sexual connection so I'll say
1:09.8	sexual attraction I believe you need an intellectual connection. And the last one is I felt that you
1:16.4	need to mutually make each other better at what you do. And for me that's like my
1:22.1	mission doing this or running businesses and for her it could
1:25.0	be she's a breath work practitioner and whatever else. We make each other better, we're sexually
1:30.4	attracted and we're intellectually stimulating of each other.
1:34.8	I think those things are great. I don't think everyone should write them down as
1:38.6	their three things but I think it works for you and I can tell you why. They are more about who the two of you are
1:44.4	together than her qualities. So maybe your early list had this body type, this
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