The GOOD GIRL'S Guide to Great SEX w/ Sheila Wray Gregoire, MA - Author and Speaker

Dear Young Married Couple

Adam & Karissa King

Christianity, Sexuality, Health & Fitness, Religion & Spirituality, Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 871 Ratings

🗓️ 17 November 2020

⏱️ 39 minutes

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“My biggest piece of advice for the wedding night: Don’t aim for intercourse, aim for arousal.⁠ ♥️⁠ Christian women experience sexual pain at twice the rate of the general population… so this is OUR problem. I think a large part of that is due to the rushing for intercourse on the wedding night, even if she’s been looking forward to sex her whole life.⁠ ♥️⁠ The reason we tell dating couples to avoid lying down on a couch together and making out is because once you start in that progression, it can be hard to stop. The couples that avoid those things when they’re dating often end up completely skipping steps on their wedding night. They’re thinking, 'Now we can have sex, so why would you do all those middle things?'⁠ ♥️⁠ That’s why I ask couples to ask themselves why it is that those middle things are arousing? Why is making out while your hands wander arousing?⁠ It’s often because you’re not aiming for anything — you’re just enjoying each other. You’re taking a really long time and you’re RELAXED together.⁠ ♥️⁠ What happens for many couples on their wedding night is that they feel like they have to have sex… so they take off their clothes and try intercourse. In the surveys that we did, a lot of women said that they were not aroused the first time they had sex and that’s a problem…⁠ ♥️⁠ Instead of aiming for intercourse on your wedding night, aim for arousal so you can stay relaxed together. I know it’s really difficult because you’ve been looking forward to this your whole life, but just trust me on this one.” — Sheila Wray Gregoire, MA⁠ ♥️⁠ Listen in to hear the much-needed conversation we have with award-winning author/public speaker, Sheila Wray Gregoire.⁠ Sheila recommended: The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex by Sheila Wray Gregoire 31 Days to Great Sex by Sheila Wray Gregoire The Great Sex Rescue by Sheila Wray Gregoire The Orgasm Course Boost Your Libido Course You can reach Sheila at: www.tolovehonorandvacuum.com sheila@sheilawraygregoire.com Stay in conversation with us on IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple or on our website: www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com Join us for the next Monthly Live Date Night where we dig into some of these topics with you LIVE for 90 minutes this month! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:31.7	We can actually learn an awful lot of a god just from the way that he made our bodies.
0:36.8	And she also has to be willing
0:38.9	to let go of control and just surrender to the moment. And so we need to start seeing sex as much,
0:44.8	a much broader thing, that it isn't only intercourse. It's much more than just that. And when we
0:50.4	see it that way, then we're less inclined to see her as broken. If one person honestly never wants sex, truly never wants it, you need to ask what's
0:59.6	missing? Christian women experience sexual pain at twice the rate of the general population.
1:04.6	If you're having sex time, then that must mean that God is far away, right?
1:09.3	And if you're having God time, then that must mean that sex is far away.
1:12.6	So if we're made in the image of God, then we have to believe that stuff about our sexuality is telling us something about God.
1:20.6	Dear young married couple, you're in a busy season of your life.
1:26.6	You're probably working and involved in
1:29.5	ministry. On top of that, you might even be parents or students. You're maxed, but you really want to
1:36.9	stay connected in your marriage. And that's why we're bringing this podcast to you. I'm Adam King.
1:42.4	And I'm Carissa King, and we work with busy couples just like
1:45.5	you in our counseling office here in Sacramento, California. We also work with couples all over the world
1:50.5	through online counseling and our couples are really just looking for ways to communicate with each other
1:55.1	more effectively. Some of them are looking to heal from a breach and trust or find direction in fulfilling the purpose
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