ladies, I'm going to say something and you may not want to hear this, but it is time that we

stop glamorizing the things that are secretly destroying us. And I'm not talking about the big,

obvious things. I'm talking about the small things, the cute things, the things that have become

part of our personality, part of our brand.

I'm talking about the pretty aesthetic photo of the glass of wine at happy hour that has actually

turned into four glasses of wine every single night. I'm talking about the, you know, attitude of like,

this is who I am. I'm just really emotional. I just say what needs to be said. I'm unfiltered.

When in reality, we are ruining relationships around us because we lack empathy and we've

pushed people away because we've been cruel.

I'm talking about overfunctioning and calling it being a good mom or a good boss or a good

entrepreneur. I'm talking about making burnout your whole entire personality. For me, I've got a few ways,

a few ways that I sabotaged myself glamorously. Wine has been one of them for a long time.

If you've been listening to this podcast over the past nine years, you have

definitely heard me talk about taking breaks from alcohol. I typically take breaks a couple

times a year. I'll do a month, usually here or there. But when I'm not on a break,

I tend to drink pretty often. And it's something that I really made a lot of excuses for over time.

It's something that didn't seem like an issue for a while, like in my 30s when I was living in

New York City and going out all the time and building my business. But as I got into my 40s,

specifically after COVID and after my divorce,

I found myself home alone a lot. And I needed an off switch at the end of the day. I told a therapist

once, why is how I lower the volume on my brain. And he was like, oh, that's something we

should look into. But that whole identity, I mean, come on, I built a brand around champagne, right?

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