When you're the parent of a strong-willed child, there are moments when that child who you love so much drives you crazy.

And Danny, you've talked to plenty of parents with strong little kids who identify with what I just said.

Oh yeah and they can drive you up across the ceiling and all over the place right not just drive up the wall

Out the house they can be draining John that's just the reality of it.

You've got to be all in in parenting if you're going to be raising a

strong-wheel child well.

Well there are some things you can do that will help the situation.

Let's go ahead and listen to part of a conversation that Jim Daly had with Cynthia Tobias

about ways that you can raise a child with a strong

personality. Here's more from that discussion. There's something you raise in

the book The OK question. I love that which try to end your comments with

okay which conveys control back to that strong-willed child will you go to bed now

okay that kind of thing and every strong every strong old child that listens to me

will know this is true. It's all in how you say that okay because it is a magic word

but you have to say it in a certain way. In other words you wouldn't say to your

child, oh I just need you to do this for me, sweetheart, okay?

Because then to me I'm thinking weakness, tentative, I have to destroy you, I have to fight my urge to destroy you.

But if you say it calm and firm and you say it with the

tone that says look I know you could die if you want to I'm hoping you don't choose to

need you to put your seatbelt on okay no my response is no, then you say, why not? It's too tight, I don't like it, but let's

loosen it a little and then put it on, okay? Okay, that's when eight out of ten times I come back I just need a

little bit that's my little tiny bit of control see just a tiny tiny bit

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