The Giant Red Flags You Are Being Used & He Just Wants You For Sex | Stephen Speaks (Fan Fav)

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🗓️ 18 September 2025

⏱️ 185 minutes

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Summary

There are dozens of reasons why dating nowadays is so hard for men and women. While lack of communication seems to be a significant factor, being able to read the people you date is also part of the equation. Is he asking you out just because he’s interested in sex? He booked reservations at a high-end restaurant you’ve been wanting to go to, does this mean he’s serious about you? You’re having a great time together, what will he think if you decide to sleep with him on the first date? Being able to spot red flags is great, but it helps very little without you being brave enough to address it, ask questions and assess his behavior also. Stephan Speaks, one of YouTube’s favorite relationship experts has a straightforward approach and way of helping women (and men) understand and see the challenges everyone is facing. Dating is complicated and there’s a lot of unhelpful advice being shared with both sexes. This episode is going to help you spot the red flags if he’s only in it for the sex, learn how to better interpret his actions, determine if he’s toxic or just not the guy for you, and figure out how to solve the dating problems keeping you single. Follow Stephan Speaks: Website: ⁠https://www.stephanspeaks.com/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPBO9gLGy8ujsJ7xjARI7ow⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/StephanSpeaks⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/stephanspeaks/⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/StephanSpeaksRelationships/⁠ OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at https://oneskin.co SleepMe: Visit https://sleep.me/woi to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. Macy’s: Upgrade your glam at https://macys.com Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	I'd love to talk about a couple of the signs of when the guy is just blatantly only in it for sex and we may not see the signs.
0:07.7	Okay.
0:08.6	So, as always, quick disclaimer, like, you know, there's always going to be acceptance to the rule.
0:13.9	Of course.
0:14.3	And sometimes it can still get confusing.
0:15.9	But I think these are very strong signs that will typically mean this is what it is. Number one, he
0:22.4	doesn't want to take you anywhere. All right. Again, as I said earlier, the guy who just wants to
0:27.1	have sex is trying to get, it's trying to get the most for the least effort. Okay. So I've had
0:34.4	situations where the guy will only tell him to come to his house or want to go to her house.
0:39.7	I've had situations where the guy only wants to go to a hotel room.
0:42.8	All right?
0:43.1	That's the only place he'll meet up with the woman.
0:45.3	They're not trying to be out and about with you.
0:48.6	Okay?
0:49.8	It is extremely rare for a guy with genuine intent not to make some kind of accommodations to take you out.
0:57.7	So if he's 100% refusing it, everything is about being at his house or yours, he's just one sex.
1:04.1	Plain and simple.
1:05.1	All right.
1:06.0	I think the second thing is that he doesn't respect your desire to want to wait for it.
1:14.1	So it's one thing for, let's say you're a woman, you're going on a date with this man,
1:18.8	and you let him know, hey, listen, I'm not into rushing into that.
1:22.4	I want to take my time.
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