Coming to you from the Center for Social Confidence in Portland, Oregon.

Welcome to Shrink for the Shy Guy, helping men everywhere go from social anxiety to social domination.

With your host, Dr. Riziz.

Welcome to today's episode of Shrink for the Shyaghan. Today's episode is called the genuine approach,

which is in contrast to the disingenuous approach, the inauthentic approach, the phony or fake approach.

And what I mean here is I mean approaching women for dating and relationships. But you can apply this to many areas of your life.

In fact, any area where you have social interaction.

That could be with friends, colleagues, your boss, coworkers, acquaintances, friends of friends, strangers out in public.

How do we be more genuine?

Because isn't that what you want on some level?

I mean, ultimately, we want to feel good about ourselves.

We want to feel loved.

We want to feel worthwhile.

But there's some challenges that come up when we try to get that love by being fake or phony.

And ultimately, we can only really receive it when we're being genuine.

In fact, I want to read a quote by Brad Blanton, who's an awesome author.

He wrote a book called Radical Honesty.

In fact, I'm going to be interviewing him in a couple months on the show, so stay tuned for that.

But here's a quote from his book, Radical Honesty.

When I am honestly myself and you respond warmly and with caring, then love

exists. If I calculate and put on phony behavior in order to please you, you may love my

behavior, but you cannot love me because I've hidden my real existence behind this artificial

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