Coming to you from the Center for Social Confidence in Portland, Oregon, welcome to shrink for the shy guy, helping men everywhere go from social anxiety to social domination.

With your host, Dr. Raziz.

Hey, everybody, welcome to today's show.

Today we're going to be getting into the big questions. Good versus evil.

That's actually what I want to start with. There's a question. How do you see yourself? Do you perceive yourself as good or as bad? As admirable, worthy of love, a good person? Or do you see yourself as a bad person,

defective, unworthy of love, less than, inadequate, somehow there's something wrong with you?

And I'm asking this question because I know the answer from my own perspective for many, many,

many years when I was stuck in that place of shyness was I was bad.

I was defective.

There's something wrong with me.

And now that I work with people, that is one of the first questions that I start to uncover

with them.

And invariably, if they're stuck with shyness or social anxiety, the answer is I'm bad.

There's something wrong with me. And that's going to get us into the topic of today's show,

which is called toxic shame. So I'm going to introduce this idea of toxic shame to you.

You're going to learn exactly what it is so you can uncover what's holding you back and ultimately how to be free from that

sense of there's something wrong with me there's some badness in me and as part of the show I'm really

excited because we're having another segment from my interview with Sean Cooper where we're going to

get directly into this topic of toxic shame and more importantly, how do we relieve ourselves

of this feeling? How do we become free of it? So let's jump into that right now. First of all,

what is toxic shame? Toxic shame is a consistent or persistent sense of badness, of there's something wrong with me. I'm not good in some way,

and therefore people are going to not love me. They're going to judge me, they're going to reject me,

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