I'm Dr Becky and this is good inside.

Once you see these patterns you see them in the office.

They're often very obvious with children at a very young age. Like they're really kind of easy to spot once you notice the pattern. And so what's great about that is that then you can harness that in order to achieve an aim, whether for yourself or for somebody else.

Instead of getting lost in this thing of like, well, one person's right or one person has the better way,

it's like, well, we can all learn from each other, but maybe if this doesn't work for you,

what are some other ways to try it?

Understanding people who are different from us, understanding our kids, who are different from us is one of the hardest things in life.

If you're like me there's a certain way you go about the world so for me I tend to kind

of like rules I like knowing what's expected for me and I have expectations for myself.

And when people tell me, hey, I'd like you to do something.

As long as it's reasonable, I'm happy to oblige.

I'm actually happy to know what they expect.

Well, I know I have a kid, and I have certain friends

who are completely different.

Like, why are you asking so many questions? It's not that complicated. And one of the things I've recently unpacked was a new way to understand these differences and it has been mind-blowingly helpful to me and I can't wait to share it with

you. Today on the pod I'm talking to Gretchen Rubin. She is one of today's most influential and thought-provoking observers of

happiness and human nature. She's the author of many New York Times best-selling books

and she hosts The Happier with Gretchen Rubin podcast. I can't wait for you to hear our

discussion on the different tendencies people have and how to use that information in a very

practical, helpful way in your real life.

We'll be back right after this.

I don't know about you, but I'm already thinking about my family's summer vacation. And after so many years of

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