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Hey everybody, this is Aubrey Chavez from Faith Matters. Today we are so thrilled to share a

conversation with New York Times bestselling author and happiness expert, Gretchen Rubin,

where we explored one of her most practical and game-changing frameworks, the four tendencies.

Gretchen explains that we all face two types of expectations, outer expectations

like a church calling or request from a boss or family member, and inner expectations like a

personal goal or habit. She observed that people tend to respond to these expectations in one

of four consistent ways, and she defines these responses as the upholder, the questioner, the obliger,

and the rebel. Gretchen believes that understanding this one aspect of your personality can

bring surprising clarity to your habits, relationships, and responsibilities. In faith communities

where expectations come from lots of different directions, from God, leaders, our ward family, and ourselves.

This framework offers a gentle way to understand why some people feel energized while others

quietly burn out. Gretchen shares clear practical strategies for each tendency so that you can

work with your nature, not against it. Whether you're navigating a calling, serving a mission,

experiencing doubt, or trying

to build a consistent scripture study habit, she shows how to avoid burnout and follow through.

We have been so excited to share this episode with you because once you start seeing yourself

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