The Fastest Way to Get Out of Victim Mode + Design The Life and Business You Want

Earn Your Happy

Lori Harder

Business, Entrepreneurship

4.6 • 2.8K Ratings

🗓️ 25 September 2025

⏱️ 16 minutes

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Summary

Let’s be honest, no one is going to create your dream life for you. I know what it’s like to feel stuck in rooms that don’t reflect your values or conversations that don’t inspire you. In this episode, I share the shift that helped me stop waiting and start facilitating the exact experiences, friendships, and breakthroughs I wanted. Get ready to become the woman who curates what she wants. Check out our Sponsors: SKIMS - I finally tried SKIMS and I get all the hype. Shop SKIMS Fits Everybody collection at SKIMS.com and let them know we sent you in the dropdown after checkout. Brevo - the all-in-one marketing and CRM platform designed to help you connect with customers and grow your business. Get started for free today - go to www.brevo.com/happy Blinds.com - Blinds.com makes it easy to get the designer look without the showroom markups. Get an exclusive $50 off when you spend $500 or more with code EARN at checkout. Shopify - Try the ecommerce platform I trust for Glōci, Sign up for your $1/month trial period at Shopify.com/happy Headway - the #1 daily growth app that delivers key insights from the world’s best non fiction books in bite sized 15 minute reads and audio. Save 25% off when you go to makeheadway.com/happy. Airbnb - Start making money by listing your home on Airbnb with an experienced Co-host, find a co-host at airbnb.com/host HIGHLIGHTS The uncomfortable truth about staying in “victim mode”. Why the most powerful women curate what they want instead of waiting for it. Why I started my own mastermind. The moment I realized I had already canceled myself. The mantra that will shift how you show up. RESOURCES Join the Audacity Challenge HERE! Join the most supportive mastermind on the internet HERE! Check out our FREE 90-Day Business Blueprint HERE! Listen to my free SECRET PODCASTS SERIES - Operation: Rekindle This B*tch Get glōci HERE Use code: HAPPY at checkout for 25% off! FOLLOW Follow me: @loriharder Follow glōci: @getgloci

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0:00.0	I will make getting uncomfortable my comfort zone because I will know that if I'm not uncomfortable
0:06.4	every day when my head hits the pillow, then I have a night of discomfort and tossing and turning,
0:12.0	knowing that I am not doing the thing that God gifted me and the reason why I'm here and
0:17.3	that people are waiting for me to step into this big vision. If you don't change
0:21.8	today, your next year is not going to look the same. It's going to look worse because if we're not
0:27.8	making progress, we digress. Hey, everyone. Welcome back to the Earn Your Happy podcast.
0:38.4	It's time for another quickie because there's always time to fit in inspiration.
0:42.2	I have been thinking so much about creating the life that you wish existed.
0:48.1	And I'm thinking back to all of the times where I would look at my reality and be super annoyed.
0:58.0	I would wish that my life looked completely different, that I had a different set of friends,
1:04.1	that I was supported in a different way, that my husband would show up in a different way,
1:08.1	that my family would be different.
1:10.1	And I was in complete victim
1:12.9	mode. Whether I realized it or not, I will say there was a little bit of kind of understanding
1:18.8	that I was absolutely choosing it. But also, that's what my brain was telling me was normal.
1:24.7	That is how I was programmed my whole life, is to be in victim mode and think that life
1:30.0	is happening to you and not for you and that you really don't have the control that you want to
1:35.9	have over your life. And so today, we are going to talk about going from victim mode to facilitator mode.
1:43.0	So no matter where you are, you can always become more of a
1:46.9	facilitator, more of a creator in your life and your whole fucking life is going to shift so fast.
1:54.0	Get ready. Buckle up literally. If you are ready to do this, your life is going to change.
2:01.1	So if you have been a part of the audacity challenge and you're just like, holy shit,
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