A lot of people with ADHD, there is something called ADHD loneliness.

You feel very disconnected from people that don't understand you. You can see like a scale of like 0 to 10. And there's other people that don't see that scale the way that you see it. And you're trying to say or speak the language of 0 to 10. And other people look at you like, what are you going on about? It's almost like there's something wrong with you because you can see something that other people can't. So you then end up believing you're the problem.

Dr. Lalitaz Zaglani is an award-winning psychologist with a focus on ADHD. This conversation with Dr. Lalita is sure to change your life and alter everything you know about ADHD. No one's better. No one's worse off than being neurodiverse, being neurotypical. It's understanding the way you show up

so you can feel good enough in yourself and you can feel like peace with who you are. Do you think there's a

point in any ADHD child's journey that they have a realization that they are different? I feel like

from a young age. Dr. Lalita. Hi. Thank you so much for joining us.

A pleasure to be here. I'm excited for this conversation. I have interviewed about 200 people now

on the topic of ADHD. And if I'm honest, the more I speak about it, the more confused I get

sometimes. But I feel like this conversation chatting to you, we're finally going to get to the bottom

of it. So, firstly, what is ADHD, in your opinion? And how do you see it showing up in people's

lives? So as a psychologist, I have worked with lots of different people who have been diagnosed

with ADHD, but also people that haven't been diagnosed and they're on the verge of it,

or they don't realize that they may have ADHD.

So for me, ADHD shows up in lots of different ways.

And we have to be mindful of what we might see in the DSM of what ADHD is,

but also understand how we have learned to deal with ADHD if we've not known we've had it.

And what I mean by that is that if we have had or we've developed coping strategies like

people pleasing, perfectionism, making sure that everyone else around us is regulated,

so we feel regulated.

We have to look at the masking behaviors as well.

We can't just look at, okay, someone that is not fidgety or someone who isn't sitting on their like hands all the time. They may not, just because they're not doing that doesn't mean that they don't have ADHD. So for me, it's really important as a psychologist to look at all aspects of someone's life. So looking at their early childhood experiences, understanding that.

And a lot of the work that I do is around the inner child and understanding learned behaviors

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