One of the things I really, really underestimated when we got married was the baggage that you brought in.

I was going to say, you had a lot of baggage.

You didn't hear me. I said, you brought up.

You had a lot of baggage.

I did. I did too.

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Think about it. If you would put our, you know, our childhoods and our families of origin on paper.

A counselor would look at us and say, you're going to have real struggles.

And then you put on top of that that you're 19 and 22.

What are you thinking?

Yeah, we think we don't need help.

It's like we were carrying, you know, a whole airplane cargo saying down the aisle and then into marriage.

And again, I don't think it showed up for us for a few months, if not even a year.

And I really thought, I love Jesus so much. All of my baggage has disappeared.

And he's so gracious in that instead of letting it disappear, he brings it back and says, oh, I'd love to shape you.

And I'm going to allow some of that baggage to shape you or you can ignore it.

And it will just wreak havoc on our lives.

Yeah, God actually we found out actually used all that for good.

It was not good. There's a lot of evil in there, but as he redeemed it, he opened the bags and began to heal.

He helped us open them.

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