About 10 years in we figured it out and we wrote Fairfite rules and we were learning them all along

But I'll give you the first just the beginning of the principle

When you're under pressure and you have conflict you want to be heard

The objective is not to be heard but to hear so my job is to listen and our rule is I have not listened until she says I have

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So I remember sitting at the Family Life we can remember marriage get away two weeks before our wedding. Yes

Which it was a

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But we were sitting there

Engaged two weeks from that Saturday. We're going to be getting married and

I'll never forget Dennis Rainey was on the stage and you know at the time president and founder of Family Life

And he said something like this and I know exactly because it's in the in the manual

We now teach it. Yeah, but he says conflict is common to all marriages and what do you think? Go through

Oh, what do you think? I mean, we're sitting there before we're getting married and we both thought

Not our marriage. I really thought there has been no one on the entire planet that has loved and love each other at the way we do

No one

And I think every couple thinks that like nothing compares to our love for one another

I remember sitting around watching all these couples take notes. We didn't take any notes. We're like

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