The Elephant In The Room: How To Say What No One Wants To Say

The Art of Accomplishment

Brett Kistler

Management, Mental Health, Personal Development, Education, Self-improvement, Business, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 269 Ratings

🗓️ 8 November 2024

⏱️ 39 minutes

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Summary

There’s an elephant in the room! Everyone KNOWS there’s an elephant in the room, and they keep glancing at it—except for one person who is highly committed to ignoring the elephant. The elephant is making a mess. It’s taking up all the air and space in the room, and it’s already crushed poor Bob. Yet instead of talking about the elephant in the room, people are afraid to mention that there’s an elephant. Some people get so uncomfortable that they leave the room, but still say nothing. Everyone is hoping that the person who is ignoring the elephant will finally acknowledge it, so they can do something about it, but they aren’t sure how to go about it. In this episode, Brett and Joe unpack the phenomenon of the elephant in the room. They explore: - The dynamics that create this situation - How looking directly at these issues can lead to healing and growth - The importance of addressing difficult topics in both personal and professional settings - How to create a culture where individuals feel safe to express their thoughts and feelings - The need for leaders to model this behavior - The significance of conflict in fostering trust and connection

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0:00.0	Many years ago, I was working in commercial production in the film industry.
0:07.6	And there was one job where we were working with this famous musician who was publicly going through a lot of things at the time.
0:17.4	And so we were all kind of patiently awaiting their arrival and wondering how it was going to be.
0:22.6	You know, we made sure we had the moho set up nicely.
0:25.0	We had the right music that we knew that this person liked.
0:29.2	And we were like, okay, there was a lot of tension.
0:33.8	And when this person showed up, they just looked like death. Like they looked like they'd been
0:41.1	hit by a truck. And nobody said anything about it. They showed up and everybody was just really
0:48.8	cordial like, oh, hey, hey there, how are you doing? Welcome to set. And they just walked right through, came into the
0:57.4	moho, they sat down in the chair, and there's just silence in the room. And then the makeup artist
1:05.9	comes in, and she just walked right up and she just was like, oh, wow, well, you just look like shit, don't you?
1:12.6	And immediately, immediately all the tension in the room just dropped.
1:17.2	And he just relieved.
1:20.6	It's just like, oh, God, thank you.
1:22.9	Yeah, yeah, I feel like absolute shit.
1:26.3	And that just changed everything. Just speaking to that
1:30.3	obvious truth that nobody was speaking to really dropped in the whole the whole day.
1:39.0	So, so yeah, for today's episode, I want to talk about how to talk about the elephant in the room.
1:46.4	Besides, there's a fucking elephant in the room, apparently, which is what the makeup artist did.
1:51.3	Right.
1:51.9	Right?
1:52.2	Just bam, here it is.
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