Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

Are you someone who says yes a lot because you don't want to disappoint other people?

And even though you know you're secretly already dreading the thing that you're saying yes to in the present moment,

the word that comes out of your mouth when someone asks you or something is still yes. You're like, yeah, okay, I'll be there or I'll

hop with that or absolutely you can count on me for that thing.

Look I get it I'm a people pleaser too and saying no will probably always be

uncomfortable for me but that's okay I am capable and willing to be uncomfortable. But I had a couple of ideas

about saying yes, but I wanted to share with you today in case it's helpful in allowing you to lean more easily into

the discomfort of saying no.

And those two things are this.

When you say yes to everything, your yes doesn't actually mean very much.

Think about that. Maybe we all know a person or have known a person who's just always available, it's always a yes, it's a sure thing.

We may certainly appreciate that person, but when they say yes, it's expected and it doesn't feel significant.

It's like, oh, we can count on Johnny or we can count on, you know, Jane.

It's always a yes from them.

And so if they yes is is so common, it doesn't feel significant.

I'd like to contrast that with something. I have a friend in New York, she's very focused, she's a working mom so she naturally has limited time.

And when I go to New York, which is quite often right now, I'll reach out to her to see if she can meet up. No pressure, I all love, I always say.

And most of the time, it's a no, like she simply can't do it, she's traveling for work or she's with her kids,

she comes in from Connecticut, so it's a train.

And so when she does say yes, when she can make it, I feel so thrilled and it feels special I appreciate our time together and I know that she

really wants to be there because in her no in the generosity even of saying the

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