Hi folks, hope you're doing all right today and there's not too many dramas going on for you.

Have you ever noticed how some arguments or family dramas seem to play out like a soap opera?

The same script, repeating over and over.

Someone feels mistreated. Someone else swoops in to fix it.

And before long, somebody's the villain.

That's what psychologists call the drama triangle.

Back in the 1960s, a therapist called Stephen Carpman noticed these patterns while studying human

behaviour.

He saw that in conflict, people often unconsciously take on one of three

roles, victim, rescuer or persecutor, and he drew them as the corners of a triangle. Problem is

once people step into that triangle, they tend to keep moving around it. So the victim role isn't necessarily

about being an actual victim of something awful, it's more about feeling powerless. It's the

why me mindset. People in this role see problems as happening to them, with little ability to

influence the outcome. On the service,

it looks like helplessness, but underneath, there's often a hope that someone will step in

and save the day. And often, someone does. Enter the rescuer. The rescuer feels compelled

to jump in and fix things, sometimes even when nobody's asked them to.

And they say things like, don't worry, I'll sort it.

It looks generous, but the motivation can be about avoiding their own problems or boosting their self-worth by being indispensable.

Over time, though, rescuers often burn out.

They feel drained, even resentful, because they've taken responsibility for someone else's life.

And then there's the persecutor.

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