The Do’s and Don’ts of Breaking Up

Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 2.9K Ratings

🗓️ 20 June 2016

⏱️ 6 minutes

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Summary

There’s really no such thing as a “good” breakup, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t ways to make it a little smoother and less painful for both of you. I’m going to give you my 3 Do’s and 3 Don’ts to help you make your case, prevent an argument, and keep you from losing your nerve and going back to a relationship that isn’t right for you.

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0:00.0	I'm Matthew Hussey and this is Love Life. If you've ever felt like you didn't know the
0:07.3	right words to say to a man to create attraction and chemistry, then you can't afford to
0:12.9	miss what I have for you at the end of today's episode. Stay tuned, because I'm going to
0:17.5	hand you five phrases that are so simple, yet so powerful with men, that you're going
0:22.6	to be furious at me for not giving this to you years ago.
0:27.6	Let's talk about a difficult subject. How do you break up with someone? First, don't
0:32.6	have ten different reasons for the breakup. One of the mistakes we fall into is we feel
0:39.7	like we have to stack our case. And in doing so, we end up muddying some of our stronger
0:46.7	cases, some of our stronger arguments with the weaker arguments that we use to support
0:53.0	our case. And of course, when you give someone a bunch of arguments and some of them are
0:56.9	strong and some of them are weak, you know from arguments in the past, what does someone
1:01.2	focus on? They start focusing on the weak arguments in your case and they use them to justify
1:07.0	why your decision is the wrong one. And you may, during the conversation, need to be repetitive.
1:14.5	Don't think that just because somebody keeps talking to you about it and keeps prying
1:19.5	that you need to come up with new arguments. If you know your reason, don't be afraid of
1:25.8	stating it multiple times, at least it's the real reason and you're not searching for
1:31.0	other reasons to bolster your case. Next, be kind. You know, you don't want to go into
1:36.8	this trying to attack the person for what they're going wrong. You're already potentially
1:40.8	breaking their heart. They don't need a whole bunch of complexes and insecurities on top
1:45.6	of it. So don't let it turn into an argument and understand that they might try to turn
1:51.0	it into an argument. They might try and make this something that's antagonistic so that
1:56.0	they can feel better about it. If they do, don't take the bait. Just be kind, understand
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