The Divorce Lawyer Reveals Why Marriages Really Fail

We Need To Talk with Paul C. Brunson

FlightStory

Relationships, Society & Culture, Leisure

4.7 • 1.2K Ratings

🗓️ 5 May 2026

⏱️ 110 minutes

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Summary

James Sexton is one of the world’s most famous divorce lawyers, and in this conversation he explains what divorce, cheating, marriage and prenups really look like behind closed doors. He speaks openly about why marriages fail, why every couple already has a prenup, and why most people wait too long to understand what they are really signing up for. James also shares what it means to be a high-conflict divorce attorney, why he calls himself “a weapon in court”, and how he protects clients through some of the most painful moments of their lives. He reflects on infidelity, custody battles, domestic abuse cases, and the brutal psychology of what really happens when love turns into war. But this conversation is also about love. James explains why marriage should be harder to get into and easier to leave, why disconnection starts long before divorce, and why the real work of a relationship is choosing each other again and again. James Sexton, We Need To Talk Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Sign up to our newsletter https://linkly.link/2eXHX Follow James here:https://www.instagram.com/nycdivorcelawyer/ https://www.tiktok.com/@nycdivorce (00:00) Intro (02:03) The World’s Most Famous Divorce Lawyer (03:14) “I Hope Your Marriage Ends in Death” (06:30) Should I Get A Prenup? (10:54) The Patriarchal History of Marriage (14:42) James’ Definition of Divorce (22:18) James Opens Up About His Own Divorce (24:38) Representing Clients Who’ve Done Terrible Things (27:25) How to Know If a Couple Should Divorce (33:31) Shopify AD (34:42) How and When to Start the Divorce Conversation (39:45) When Should You Speak to a Divorce Lawyer? (44:22) Three Things to Consider Before Getting Married (51:43) James’ Most Memorable Case (55:39) The Main Reason for Divorce (57:16) Likelihood of Marrying After Divorce (01:03:47) Paul and James on Love and Relationships (01:14:41) Why Checking In With Your Partner Matters (01:20:16) Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce (01:37:48) Most Memorable Conversation (01:45:47) Paul’s Takeaways Sponsored by: Shopify: www.shopify.co.uk/needtotalk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	I hope your marriage ends in death because someday this will end.
0:03.6	Either in death or divorce.
0:05.2	But marriages fail 70% of the time.
0:08.4	And so just work on these three things.
0:11.0	You are the most famous divorce attorney in the world.
0:14.9	What is the problem to which marriage is a solution?
0:17.7	You tell me.
0:18.7	Me?
0:19.1	Yeah.
0:19.5	You're married.
0:20.1	What do you want me to tell you? Listen, here's what I'll tell you people would answer. I'm lonely. Guess what? There's a special loneliness when you're unhappily married. Because you've got sitting next to you, your person. Yes. And you feel so alone. I just think there's something really beautiful about our desire to love and to be loved.
0:39.1	Like I remember saying once, do you know how much I love you? Do you know I love you? Because I want you
0:45.7	to feel my love. How do we determine if we should be divorced? Yeah. Or just simply work on the
0:53.6	satisfaction?
0:54.5	The first step is always, this is wild.
0:56.7	So this is why, like, you should see a divorce lawyer
0:59.1	before you get married.
1:00.1	You just did the most legally significant thing
1:02.2	you will ever do other than dying.
1:04.0	And you think about what cake will we have.
1:06.5	Okay.
1:07.5	What are three things that you wish people knew
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