Let's start this off with a little bit of a story. Okay, it's not a good story, but it's a necessary

story for this episode. So about a month ago, maybe a little over a month ago, I was doing research

for a podcast episode about modern toxic dating advice. The concept was, I gather modern toxic

dating advice and then give my thoughts on it here on this very podcast anything goes

with Emma Chamberlain the podcast that you're listening to right now so I was on the internet

doing a deep dive I was reading articles about modern dating advice I was going on TikTok

looking up dating advice and most importantly for the sake of this story I was on YouTube looking up modern dating advice. And most importantly, for the sake of this story, I was on YouTube looking up

modern dating advice. And a buzzword that kept coming up in my search was detachment. And at first,

I kind of ignored it because I was like, that's like obviously going to be toxic. You know,

like I'll go back to that later because

that immediately to me sounds toxic. So I guess in my research or whatever, I just kind of wrote

it off. I was like, oh, I'll put a pin in that for now. I'm trying to find stuff that is maybe

less obvious. Do you know what I mean? Because based on my understanding of the word

detached, detachment, the concept of being detached in love, to me, out the gate sounded like a bad

idea, sounded toxic, okay? Just based on my vague knowledge of what that word means. So I put a pin in it,

continued my research,

found a bunch of modern toxic dating advice,

and then I eventually went back to detachment.

I was like, last and last and at least, what is this all about?

And I clicked the first video I found about detachment in love,

and I was shocked at what I heard.

I was like, wait a minute, this is not toxic at all.

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