The Danger of Being Overly Considerate Towards Your Partner: Aaron Solo Episode 172
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 8 July 2021
⏱️ 10 minutes
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Summary
It's a great personal trait to be considerate of your partner (especially of their needs from the last episode). However there is a danger of being overly considerate or overly pleasing in your relationship.
You might not have ever considered this or realized that it was happening to you, but the effect can be very disruptive. It can make you feel unhappy, unfulfilled, and even disengaged from your partner.
In this solo episode with Aaron, you will be able to recognize this pattern so you can show up even better for yourself and consequently as an even better partner!
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to the Empowered Couples podcast. We're here you get modern, non-boring relationship |
| 0:05.4 | advice for you and your partner to communicate like pros, fight smarter, and stay in the same team |
| 0:11.0 | no matter the challenge that you face. I am one of your host, Aaron Freeman, and I'll be your |
| 0:15.5 | only host today. So if you are a new listener, then Jocelyn and I actually do our own solo episode every once |
| 0:24.2 | and a while, and these are on our Thursday episode. So today, I had a topic that I wanted to bring |
| 0:29.9 | forth, and that is the danger of being overly considerate towards your partner. And this is |
| 0:36.6 | something that I have been feeling personally |
| 0:38.7 | for myself. And if you're wondering, well, where does this come from? Well, all of our podcast episodes |
| 0:44.3 | come from messages on DM. It comes from emails, questions that we get, topics in our coaching. |
| 0:51.9 | And all of that really does come from Jocelyn and i look at all of these things |
| 0:56.3 | in our own relationship so i wanted to bring this forth because this is something that i have |
| 1:00.8 | experienced and wanted to share with all of you here and it's an interesting idea how could i |
| 1:07.0 | be overly considerate towards my partner or what would be more of the detriment? Why would that |
| 1:12.6 | be a problem? Well, as we dive in here, let me talk about why this is so important. Now, when I say |
| 1:19.1 | considerate, there is another definition that I want to bring forward, and that is called pleasing. |
| 1:26.2 | Now, many of you know that we have a relationship |
| 1:28.5 | assessment that we do as a part of one of our self-paced courses and we always do in our |
| 1:33.9 | private coaching. And this pleasing trait is actually a part of your own individual personality |
| 1:40.9 | within a relationship. And this plays a big role in the dynamics that play out your |
| 1:46.7 | conflict resolution your communication your feeling of happiness of being fulfilled and this pleasing |
| 1:54.0 | trait is actually defined by how considerate and cooperative you are in your interactions with your partner. Now this really is a |
| 2:05.1 | positive thing. You want to be considerate. You want to be compassionate, understanding, and |
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