Have Conflicting Needs? 5 Principles to Work Through This Together: Episode 171
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 6 July 2021
⏱️ 44 minutes
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Summary
Of course you know that you and your partner are not exactly the same. Yet, how often do you expect them to fulfill all of your needs? Or even how often you assume that they should just know or desire to meet your needs?
When you get to a place where you have conflicting needs, this can feel as if you have to sacrifice or be discouraged that your needs won't be met. When we asked on IG what some of the common conflicting needs for you were, we heard back:
- Togetherness vs separateness
- Physical touch vs quality time
- Time to talk and connect at the end of the day vs quiet time to decompress after working a long day.
- Working vs leading the kids and home
But there are ways, in this case you will hear 5 principles, so that you can work through your conflicting needs together and be sure that you do not have to sacrifice or give up on having your most important needs met in your relationship.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to the Empower Couples podcast. |
| 0:02.4 | We're here you get modern, non-boring relationship advice for you and your partner to communicate like pros, |
| 0:09.2 | fight smarter, and stay on the same team no matter the challenge that you're facing. |
| 0:13.5 | I am one of your host, Aaron Freeman. |
| 0:15.1 | And I'm Jocelyn Freeman, but you all just know us as the Freeman's. |
| 0:18.1 | And today's all about having conflicting needs, and we're going to give you five principles |
| 0:23.5 | to work through this together. |
| 0:25.0 | Yeah, conflicting needs, right? |
| 0:26.9 | We can have either seasons of this or it can feel like it's perpetually happening in your |
| 0:32.4 | relationship. |
| 0:33.5 | And wherever you fall in that, you're not alone. |
| 0:35.9 | We hear this so often on our private sessions |
| 0:38.8 | and then Instagram messages. |
| 0:40.3 | And so we put out a poll and we wanted to hear about |
| 0:43.6 | what are some conflicting needs that are either seasonal |
| 0:46.8 | or always happening in your relationship. |
| 0:48.9 | And so here are a few of them. |
| 0:50.9 | One is like one of us needs a lot of like togetherness. You know, we need time together. |
| 0:56.2 | I want quality time. I want just you and me. And the other person is needing separateness. |
| 1:01.9 | I need alone time. I need time with my friends. You know, I need to be able to just go out and do |
| 1:07.2 | whatever I want with my hobbies. Right. So there's this mismatch of wanting togetherness |
| 1:12.2 | versus separateness. What's another challenge? Well, with like the five love languages, |
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