The Cost of Isolation With Ex-Skinhead, Graham Finochio

The Man Enough Podcast

Wayfarer Studios LLC

Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement, Mental Health, Education

4.8 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 7 November 2022

⏱️ 54 minutes

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Community becomes more important than ideology when you feel completely alone. We’re joined by former skinhead turned feminist activist, Graham Finochio, to talk about the radicalization of young, isolated men, how the prison system fails men and how being called in to accountability and community can create radical acceptance and change. Orphaned at 14, Graham shares stories of his upbringing, his lack of support and community, his radicalization during homlessness and the program, Success Stories, that challenged his ideologies and changed his heart during his final days in prison. New episodes every Monday 🎙️ The video version of every episode and bonus features will always be available on the @wearemanenough YouTube channel ( https://youtube.com/WeAreManEnough ) and at https://ManEnough.com/podcast The Man Enough Podcast is produced by Wayfarer Studios and presented by Procter and Gamble, in partnership with Cadence13, an Audacy company. About Graham Finochio: Graham Finochio is an community organizer and Success Stories Coach Coordinator helping people who have done harm to others, create a more peaceful world through feminism. Graham was formerly incarcerated at Deuel Vocational Institute in Tracy, California and spent around 20 years of his life in and out of the prison industrial system. He came home in February of 2019 and is a coach at three prisons in the central valley and multiple reentry programs in Southern California. SHOW NOTES 03:18- Introducing Graham Finochio 07:32 - Graham's Story 12:03 - The "System" is Flawed and Designed to Lure in Lost Souls 13:56 - Success Stories, Prison Feminist Program 17:17 - Graham Was Confronted About His Beliefs 22:17 - To Create Change, Graham Had to Challenge Everything 26:42 - Graham's Message to Young Men 34:40 - Liz’s Experience With Pack Mentality 47:58 - The Biggest Lesson Graham Learned Key Quotes from the Episode: “Is this working for you?” - Graham “My favorite people on the planet are people that have been broken, and are transformative…that means you’ve done work.” - Jamey “Objectifying women in society is a way to prove that you are a man.“ – Liz “You can’t idealize love.” - Graham JOIN THE MAN ENOUGH COMMUNITY: https://instagram.com/wearemanenough https://tiktok.com/wearemanenough https://twitter.com/WeAreManEnough https://facebook.com/wearemanenough https://youtube.com/WeAreManEnough Subscribe to the Man Enough newsletter for behind the scenes, updates, sneak peeks of new episodes, and positive masculinity content: https://manenough.com/newsletter Read the Man Enough book: https://manenough.com/books Order the Boys Will Be Human book: https://boyswillbehuman.com GRAHAM FINOCHIO LINKS: Twitter: @finochiograham FOLLOW THE HOSTS: Justin Baldoni https://instagram.com/justinbaldoni https://www.tiktok.com/@justinbaldoni https://facebook.com/justinbaldoni https://twitter.com/justinbaldoni Text: +1 (310) 845-6909 Liz Plank https://instagram.com/feministabulous https://tiktok.com/@lizplank https://facebook.com/feministabulous https://twitter.com/feministabulous http://www.elizabethplank.com/ Jamey Heath https://instagram.com/jamey_heath_ https://tiktok.com/@jameyheath https://twitter.com/jamey_heath_ https://facebook.com/jameyjaz http://www.jameyheath.com/ SPECIAL ADVERTISER OFFERS FOR YOU Chime Financial Go to https://www.chime.com/manenough to sign up for a Chime Checking Account today! Thanks to Chimefor supporting the show. #skinhead #antisemitism #racism #feminism #change #prison Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hey Justin Baldoni here and I just wanted to say thank you because my new book
0:04.8	Boys Will Be Human debuted at number three on the New York Times Best Seller list.
0:10.0	I never in a million years thought it would be possible.
0:12.8	There's not even a section in the bookstore for young boys,
0:16.2	and it's thanks to you in this community that had happened.
0:18.4	If you haven't picked up the book yet, it's available now,
0:20.8	anywhere you get your books, it's also on audible.
0:23.1	It's called Boys Will Be Human.
0:24.6	It's a get real gut check to becoming the strongest, kindest, bravest person you can be.
0:29.6	If you know a parent of a 11 to 100 year old boy or if you are one yourself, I promise you this book is for you.
0:39.2	Boys will be human available everywhere that books are sold.
0:43.4	Coming up on Man Enough.
0:45.6	The only way you can challenge racism, it's not by cancelling racists.
0:49.0	People who act racist.
0:49.8	It just doesn't work.
0:50.8	Same with sexist.
0:51.8	You can't cancel them. The desire to do so is big because we live in a punishment
0:56.0	culture, right? And it just makes sense to us, like you've done harm, let's harm you. The question
1:01.1	that was posed to me was, is this working for you?
1:04.0	That one moment allowed me the space to know that questioning masculinity is something that it's
1:07.8	continual work.
1:08.8	I couldn't deny that I was doing the things that were on that board.
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