The Confidence Code: 8 Shifts for Instant Growth

Soul Gum

by Victoria Hutchins

Philosophy, Society & Culture

4.9 • 560 Ratings

🗓️ 16 February 2025

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Summary

Confidence isn’t just something you have—it’s something you do. Today, we’re breaking down 8 small but powerful shifts that will instantly change how others see you and how you feel about yourself. These aren’t generic “believe in yourself” tips. These are super specific, research-backed tips that will instantly improve your confidence. We’re diving into original sources ranging from Plato’s the Republic to HBO’s Euphoria to ask: what does it mean to be a confident person? And how do you become one? If you want to show up in the next conversation you have as most magnetic, grounded, and comfy-in-your-skin version of yourself—this episode is for you.

EPISODE OUTLINE

00:00 Intro

03:42 The philosophy of confidence

03:55 Plato’s virtue of the mean

05:30 Maddy from Euphoria on confidence

06:49 8 shifts for instant confidence

07:18 Break - with a surprise for you!

11:12 1. The power of the pause

13:35 2. Watch overactive listening

16:02 3. Open body language

18:29 4. Handshakes are hot

20:34 5. Rephrase mirrored questions

24:04 6. Slow blink rate

26:43 7. Watch upspeak

29:22 8. Call them by their name

32:32 Lightning round recap

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0:00.0	When it comes to confidence, you do not either have it or you don't.
0:05.7	Confidence is an art, but it is also a science.
0:09.8	It is a skill, and it can be learned.
0:15.6	Let's talk about it.
0:18.8	Welcome back to SoulGum, the self-development podcast with philosophical, psychological, and literary flair.
0:26.9	I'm your host, Victoria Hutchins, and today we are talking about confidence.
0:34.3	Do you have a person in your life who just has it they sound like they know what they're talking
0:40.7	about no matter what they're talking about they move through any room you put them in like they
0:47.2	belong there they can tell even a really embarrassing story about themselves and when they tell it
0:52.1	it sounds like cool and charming and funny maybe someone
0:56.1	specific is coming to mind for you someone is for me when you don't feel confident seeing people like
1:02.6	that and watching them move to the world feels like shit it makes you feel like you are a lost cause
1:10.6	i had a really hard time in my 20s during that time of my life i It makes you feel like you are a lost cause.
1:13.6	I had a really hard time in my 20s.
1:20.2	During that time of my life, I would look at that person, that confident person, and think,
1:21.6	it must be nice.
1:23.1	Could never be me.
1:27.6	And in a way, I was right. Because confidence looks different on everyone.
1:30.0	It's not going to turn you into someone else.
1:32.2	But I was also very wrong.
1:38.3	Because confidence can be, and I think very often is, learned.
1:41.1	Those people you're looking at it thinking they just have it.
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