The Cheating Narcissist

Trauma & Narcissism Redefined

Caroline Strawson

Narcissisticabuse, Health & Fitness, Narcissist, Self-improvement, Education, Recovery, Mental Health, Trauma

4.8 • 701 Ratings

🗓️ 15 December 2020

⏱️ 15 minutes

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Summary

Today I talk about cheating narcissists, the reasons behind cheating, and what it is that narcissists pursue by doing it. We also cover narcissists' strong protective parts, how codependents in a relationship trigger cheating behaviours, and the difference between healthy and narcissistic abusive relationships.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

The reasons behind your partner’s cheating
The role of self-soothing in cheating behaviours
What happens when two wounded younger parts meet in a relationship
How cheating can satisfy the need for narcissistic supply
Why we need to be mindful and empathetic with those who choose to stay in a cheating relationship

When we are cheated on, we tend to think it is our fault, that we are not good enough, not worthy. But when a narcissistic partner cheats on us, it’s not about us, but about their wounded younger parts, and their need to feel that sense of grandiosity.

Resources:

Join my Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse
Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/

Transcript

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0:00.0	There's always the question of is this cheating a part of the manipulation psychological abuse tactics of them, you know, diminishing a person's sense of self-worth, that person feeling bad for the partner cheating as opposed to the partner who's cheated actually owning it and apologising it and trying to make things work?
0:19.0	Are you in a relationship right now where your partner or ex-partner cheated?
0:24.9	We talk about cheating often in relationships and very often we minimise the effects of that.
0:30.7	And that's exactly what I'm going to be talking to you about today.
0:33.5	How and why cheating could be a sign of abuse in the relationship and why cheating can literally
0:40.3	strip you to the call. Hi everybody. My name is Caroline Stawson. It's an absolute honour to be here
0:46.5	with you each week where I drop episodes on my podcast, Trauma and Narcissism Redefined. And really it is
0:53.9	about you understanding trauma, narcissistic
0:57.4	abuse, domestic abuse, all of the things that I didn't realize that I was in in my marriage to my
1:03.1	ex-husband. And before I dive in and start to talk to you a bit about the cheating, you may have
1:08.6	heard that a while ago, if you follow me regularly, and if you
1:11.3	do, thank you. It's always a pleasure to have you. And if you're brand new, well, welcome to my
1:15.9	world. And hopefully, I will be right by your side in your healing journey from narcissistic
1:20.8	abuse too. And what I'm very excited about, if you've been following me and listening to my podcast,
1:26.9	is I was saying to you, in 2025, I you've been following me and listening to my podcast, is I was
1:27.5	saying to you, in 2025, I wanted to redo my podcast and share more survivor stories with you,
1:33.4	and it's all coming together nicely. But I needed to think of a really cool title, and I know
1:38.1	many of you gave me amazing suggestions. And I'm very excited now that we finalise the name. I'm not going to tell
1:45.3	you quite what it is yet, but stay watching over the next month for our brand new launch of
1:51.4	an amazing podcast that I think is going to blow your socks off with seeing that you're not on
1:56.8	your own in this, hearing from other survivors where I will be sharing those survivor stories
2:02.3	and also doing mini kind of therapy coaching sessions with them to help them start to deepen
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