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Jillian on Love

The Chaser and the Runner: The Pattern that Destroys a Relationship

Jillian on Love

Daylight Media

Society & Culture, Sexuality, Mental Health, Relationships, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 1.5K Ratings

🗓️ 19 December 2022

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Summary

The chaser and the runner, the pursurer and the distancer, the anxious and the avoidant. The push and the pull. This pattern is one of the most common patterns in a relationship and it causes an immense amount of suffering. Jillian teaches that this cycle goes beyond attachement theory and describes how our needs for both connection AND autonomy are the reason behind everyone will struggle with this cycle many times throughout their love lives.  ~~ Follow the show on Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon Find Resources mentioned in the show at the Jillian on Love Recommendations Follow Jillian Turecki on Instagram: @jillianturecki Tik Tok: @jillian.turecki Twitter: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at www.jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Hi there, this is Julianne online. applies. their romantic relationships. By first transforming the relationship

1:04.6

they have with themselves. So whether you're in a relationship single or

1:09.0

heartbroken, I've got you covered. I'm Jillian Terecky certified relationship coach and

1:14.8

teacher with over 20 years experience helping people transform their

1:19.5

relationship with themselves through their bodies, breath and minds.

1:23.5

I have coached and taught thousands to become better versions of themselves

1:28.0

and change the way they show up in their love lives and in their relationships.

1:35.0

Today's topic is about the oh so common and a lot of

1:42.8

challenging dance between

1:46.8

the pursuer and the distancer in a relationship.

1:51.1

And a lot of people refer to this as the anxious and

1:55.8

avoidant dance, but the reality is that this goes well beyond attachment

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