Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.

So there is actually a buy-in when it comes to love. There is an ante when you sit at the table and a lot of people well here's the thing, if you are interested in a lukewarm kind of love, if you're interested in a left brain logic, kind of going through the motions, that kind of love love then I don't think there is much of a buy-in but if you want to hit the what I call the high notes if you want to experience something

that is different and new and possibly more of a healthy love, a mature love, then there's a buy-in and the buy-in is hurt. The buy-in is you will get hurt.

And most of my clients are many of my clients because they don't want to get hurt and I get it because we've all been hurt and of course you know there's nothing more painful than the pain of a broken heart and all of that causes, you know, the

beliefs, the behavior, the the coping all of that stuff right so

because

the stove has been hot because we have been burned

we tend to walk with the shield. We tend to not want to touch the

stove again even though it's not on. We tend to love from a distance. We tend to not any up, you know, and here's the thing. It takes courage to make that decision to love again or to trust someone or to you fold your hands back and lean back and know that someone's going to catch your fall, you know? And I think a lot of people, they want love, they

want something different, they want to hit high notes. They want to feel magic. They want sustainability. They want

to build trust. They want all these things. But at the same time, they are also afraid right they are also not willing to truly show themselves and this is something that like there is no choice in order to

experience a love that is three-dimensional, that is bigger than you, that is going to be something

different and new, you have to show yourself you know if you don't show yourself if you

love you know in a skittish way if you are afraid to express your feelings if

you're afraid to I mean let's actually talk about what showing yourself looks like, right?

Vulnerability, right?

A lot of people love around each other, meaning they're scared to communicate, they're scared to say what's wrong,

they're scared to tell their partner what they like, what they don't like, they're afraid to rock the boat and that is not loving hard that is not showing

yourself at the same time it doesn't mean to verbally vomit on your partner right

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