Hi, my name is John Kim and I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth. I share my feelings and revelations. I believe in casual or

clinical and with you instead of at you I come unrehearsed on

purpose because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated. So there's actually a

buy-in when it comes to love. There is an ante when you sit at the table and a lot of people, well here's the thing if you are interested in a lukewarm kind of love if you're interested in a left brain logic kind of going through the motions that kind of love then I don't think there is much of a buy-in but if you want to hit the what I call the high notes if you want to experience something

That is different and new and possibly that is more of a healthy love, a mature love,

then there's a buy-in, and the buy-in is hurt.

The buy-in is you will get hurt.

And most of my clients, or many of my clients,

because they don't want to get hurt, and I get it because we've all been hurt and

of course you know there's nothing more painful than the the pain of a broken

heart and all of that causes you know the beliefs the

behavior the coping all of that stuff, right?

So because the stove has been hot, because we have been burned,

we tend to walk with the shield,

we tend to not want to touch the stove again,

even though it's not on.

We tend to love from a distance.

We tend to not any up, you know.

And here's the thing, it takes courage to make that decision to love again or to trust someone, or to fold your hands back and lean back and know that someone's

going to catch your fall, you know.

And I think a lot of people

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