This is the whole problem that everyone makes.

Anytime we have a problem, the first thing that we do is we try to jump to a solution.

If I'm unhappy in life, I need to make more money.

If I'm struggling with dating, I need to be sexier.

It's a concept that I call toxic fuel and that will never work.

Because if I give you a glass of water and then I piss it and then I add sugar, it doesn't remove the piss.

Because no amount of building something good will remove something back in order to change behavior what you need to do is

So true. Dr. Kay is the Harvard trained psychiatrist and former monks specializing in

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There's a loneliness epidemic, social anxiety is increasing,

and falling in love seems harder.

But we have all the answers.

The problem is that everyone is doing the wrong things now.

First of all, talking about our problems can absolutely make things worse because there's a particular way we have to talk, but we're not taught how to do that.

The second thing is that we are struggling to fall in love, and that's actually but we're not taught how to do that. The second thing is we're

struggling to fall in love and that's actually because we're exhausting our dopamine

through things like devices. Yeah, people don't realize and then the rise in

social anxiety is because everyone is texting. So the parts of our brain that

reassure us in social situations are starting to rust. So there are core things

that we have to start doing. So the first is that...

Dr. King, why don't people achieve their goals?

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