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ManTalks Podcast

The Big Misunderstanding About What Women Are Attracted To

ManTalks Podcast

Connor Beaton

Relationships, Mental Health, Education, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

4.8591 Ratings

🗓️ 20 April 2023

⏱️ 10 minutes

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Summary

Shorter episode today, but something I'd love to get your thoughts on. This came from a recent conversation between Lex Friedman and Aella, a sex researcher, writer, and sex worker. She surveyed her followers on what men and women actually want in the bedroom, and noticed an interesting discrepancy. I polled my own followers and found something similar. Listen in! Check out Aella's work here: https://knowingless.com/ This podcast is brought to you by Organifi! Plant-based nutrition that's science-backed, high quality, and something I use literally every day. Hit up the link for 20% off your next purchase here: https://www.organifi.com/mantalks Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify Looking to build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Lastly, check some more free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

What's going on, team?

0:01.2

We're going to have a short little episode here today.

0:03.2

But we're talking about the biggest misunderstanding about a woman's attraction.

0:08.9

I found this to be very interesting because it came out of, this whole conversation came out of some research that I stumbled across.

0:18.3

I think I was listening to Lex Friedman podcast and he was interviewing this

0:21.1

woman named Ayella. I don't know if I'm saying that right. A-E-L-L-A. She was a former only fan star,

0:27.5

an escort, et cetera, turned relationship data scientists. And so she uses her platform to sort of study

0:34.4

relationships. And she had talked about this poll that I went checked out where she started to see that

0:42.8

there was this big discrepancy between what men thought women wanted and what women actually

0:49.0

wanted sexually within the bedroom.

0:51.8

And so she put out a poll and said, you know, women, how many of you

0:56.3

want a man to be sexually dominant in the bedroom? How many of you want a dominant man sexually?

1:03.0

And the stats were quite high. And she also asked men, how sexually dominant do you want to be or

1:10.7

think you should be in the bedroom.

1:12.4

And that was quite a bit lower. And so she started to see this discrepancy emerging that more

1:18.2

women want a sexually dominant man than men want to be sexually dominant in the bedroom.

1:24.4

Now, I thought that this was fascinating. I would not have guessed that if somebody had

1:29.1

asked me that initially. And so I actually repeated the same poll, the same kind of survey on my

1:35.5

platform on Instagram. If you're not following me, it's that man talks. But I repeated this polls.

1:41.4

And I said, men, how many of you want to be sexually dominant in the

1:45.1

bedroom and to what degree? And so I said, you know, like zero to three, three to six, six to eight,

1:51.0

eight to ten. And then I asked women, how many of you want a man to be sexually dominant in the

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