The Being Well Holiday Survival Guide

Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Being Well

Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.8 • 2.7K Ratings

🗓️ 13 November 2023

⏱️ 74 minutes

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Summary

Ah the holidays, that blessed time of year when we come together with our highly functional family systems to engage in some good, old-fashioned fun. If that sounded like a joke, this episode is for you. Dr. Rick and Forrest explore how to survive the holidays with the dishes (mostly) intact. They talk about the pull of dysfunctional family systems, our tendency to return to the way things were “back then,” and balancing the desire to flip the Thanksgiving table with the desire to just make it through another year. I thought this was one of the most interesting conversations we’ve had recently, and I hope you enjoy it. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 2:15: What makes the holidays tough? 5:45: The gap between who you are now and how your family system interacts with you 14:45: Parents yearning for the past, and craving gratitude 24:20: Finding agency amidst obligation 26:55: The weaponization of morality, and not needing to defend boundaries 32:45: Appreciating something about people amidst your struggles with them, and identifying the stakes 38:50: Getting through when it’s hard 43:30: The tension and ambiguity of wanting to speak up 47:00: Resourcing yourself ahead of time, and recognizing what’s in your best interest 51:50: Two kinds of grief and loss 1:01:40: Recap Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors: Start speaking a new language in just 3 weeks with Babbel! Get 55% off at Babbel.com/BEING. Zocdoc helps you find expert doctors and medical professionals that specialize in the care you need, and deliver the type of experience you want. Head to zocdoc.com/being and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Factor delivers fresh, never-frozen, fully prepared meals right to your door. Head to factormeals.com/beingwell50 and use code beingwell50 to get 50% off. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription. Finally get that project off the ground with Squarespace! Head to squarespace.com/beingwell for a free trial, and when you’re ready to launch use coupon code BEINGWELL to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain. Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hello and if you're new to the podcast,
0:02.0	thanks for listening to
0:07.0	Hello and welcome to being well, I'm Forrest Tansen.
0:10.0	If you're new to the podcast,
0:12.0	thanks for listening today.
0:13.0	And if you've listened before, welcome back.
0:15.0	We are getting very close to the holiday season,
0:19.0	that happy time of year,
0:21.0	when so many people around the world come together with their highly functional
0:25.1	family systems to engage in some good old-fashioned fun.
0:30.0	If you thought that that was sarcastic, this episode is probably for you.
0:34.8	The truth is that for most people, the holidays are a mixed bag at best.
0:40.0	Yes, they can be a wonderful opportunity to connect with loved ones, feel grateful for what we have,
0:45.3	get some time off of work, and hey, maybe even pick up something you wanted along the way.
0:51.0	But beneath the cheerful facade, the holidays are often a time of heightened stress, anxiety, even grief,
0:57.1	loneliness and frustration can come through during the holidays as well. And it's
1:01.3	very normal for a host of mental health challenges to crop up during this time of year,
1:06.0	many of which are directly related to those often not so functional family systems.
1:12.0	So in this episode, we're focusing on how to
1:14.0	survive the holidays with the dishes and hopefully your mental health
1:18.1	mostly intact. To help me do that I'm joined today by Dr. Rick Hansen.
1:22.5	Rick is a clinical psychologist, best-selling author, and he's also my dad.
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