Hi, hello. Welcome to Mary's Cup of Tea, the self-love podcast for women.

Though, all self-lovers are welcome here. I'm Mary. I write and speak about self-love, and I'm best

known for my book, The Gift of Self-Love, and I also host retreats for women. And this is the podcast

that will inspire you to love yourself. Real quick, before we dive in, I want to make

sure you know about my book, The Gift of Self-Love. It's a workbook to help you build confidence,

recognize your worth, and learn to love who you are. It's available anywhere books are sold.

Thousands of people have it, love it, and have told me that it is greatly benefited their self-love

journey, and I hope it'll do the same for you. And now let's get into the podcast.

As we wrap up this rather interesting year, I want to kind of recap, tie a bow on the definition of self-love

that I personally keep coming back to. This is the exact framework that I taught at my most

recent retreat in Canada. And I thought it would be beneficial to share it with you here, especially as we go

into end of your reflections slash next year planning. I want to ground you in the roots of self-love.

So we'll just dive right in. It's going to be a rather succinct episode. You know how in my book,

The Gift of Self-Love, I had this, the first chapter was the self-love formula, and it essentially

explained that self-love is a combination of three different parts. Self-esteem, aka self-confidence, self-compassion, like being kind to yourself,

and self-worth, which is the feeling of enoughness. As I was thinking about this, I wish I added,

and I feel like writers, artists in general, are always like looking back at their work and

wanting to modify it in some way.

Well, one way that I would expand a little bit more on self-esteem, self-compassion, and

self-worth is essentially self-esteem is how you think, like your self-talk.

Self-compassion is what you do, like those little acts of kindness. And self-worth is who you be. It's the really

deep underlying layer of, like I expressed earlier, feeling enough. So those three elements of

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