Modern dating can leave you feeling hopeless. It is endless scrolling and swiping and ghosting and

rejection and heightened egos when no one wants to get caught giving more than the other person.

But then something seemingly amazing happens. You meet someone you actually like, maybe after years or decades of trying.

And they reciprocate some of that interest too.

Suddenly the stakes feel so high.

And this moment that seems rare and incredible

and like everything you've been hoping for actually becomes

the most dangerous moment in dating and it has the highest potential to kill any attraction

that a person could feel for you. We go from being ourselves to being in a position where we feel

like we need that person to like us too.

We lose our standards and our boundaries, and suddenly we do things and act in ways that are

totally unnatural to us. Our brain decides that they are the prize and we are working to attain

them. And when you position someone like that in your mind, you give

away your agency and your power without realizing it. So now we know why it's dangerous. Let's

talk about what we can actually do about it. For those of you who are new here, I am Matthew

Hussey. I have been a love life coach for almost 20 years. I've helped hundreds of thousands

of people navigate challenges in their lives through my love life 20 years. I've helped hundreds of thousands of people navigate

challenges in their lives through my love life coaching group. I've written two New York Times best

selling books on this subject and on this channel I help you develop a better relationship

with other people, with yourself and with life itself. By the way, I would really appreciate it if you

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Part of what makes this moment so dangerous is that it happens subconsciously. We're unaware of how sneakily this completely involuntary and natural urge to want to impress and win someone over takes hold.

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