get it the virtual. Alright, so we're kind of trying to talk any out of actually doing a texting to her today. Hey, you want to explain what's going on?

Yeah, alright, so she's in a situation where she has a sister who is going to be proposed to and she wants to reach out to her brother and

lower and ask if he would just kind of hold off and delay the proposal because she has another sister who is unfortunately going through a rough time right now in her marriage that is leading to a divorce and she doesn't want to make it more difficult for her sister by having to be happy for her other sister at a difficult time.

So we're trying to tell her like we think that both of these things can exist at the same time you can be engaged you can be planning of wedding yet it not being totally devastating for her older sister, but only and he knows that she also told us that she told her mom she was going to be doing this and mom's like yeah, I think it's probably a pretty good idea. So all of us have warned you if you want to do this we will get everything we have but it comes with a warning. What if we text your mom instead as a

matriarch or the family and say you're in charge because people listen to you. I think whatever route we have to take we have to step gently because the absolute audacity of getting a text like this if I got it received a text like this and it was kind of like a demand I would feel so angry but if it's a suggestion or he heads up this is happening let you come to your own conclusions then it would be like oh they have my back. That's what I was going to say Cassie. I don't feel like you make a demand I feel like you I felt like this is pertinent information for you.

To have considering what you're planning on doing so now you know what's going on with my older sister and I feel like you have to come clean with this I don't feel like you can like beat around the bush and then you let him decide if he thinks it's a wise decision to move forward with the proposal or sit on it for a minute.

I feel way more comfortable. Yeah. Okay. You want to go that the softer land here. Okay. I just want to be fixed. Well it's not going to be fixed somebody is getting a divorce and that's an unfortunate reality and so I think if this guy is going to propose your sister this is your future brother in law. What do you want that relationship to look like? Yeah I think Cassie's nailed it here like I think if we're going to do this if you just are having his back and informing him what's going to happen.

What's going on with the family no harm no foul in that case now he's got all the information but if we come in here hot and say hey maybe you should rethink your proposal then I think Cassie's a hundred that he he get real defensive real quick and then you're looking a long term ramifications also ones will never be around for.

I mean that makes sense. Okay. I want to do that. Yeah. Alright. So the soft landing. Okay. How often do you and he texts text from you going to be coming out of nowhere. Kind of. Yeah. So you just put his name. Hey blank. This is Annie. Use your real name obviously.

And I feel like this is one where we don't like we're not trying to bait somebody and we're not trying to like get him on a hook and ask him a question. I feel like this is one where we need to like go ahead and just put everything out and out the gate right.

I agree. So yeah. Alright. So hey blank. This is Annie. You're about to rip our family apart. No need you to relax. I'm going to scale back buddy. Take it down. And he doesn't know you know he's going to propose right. Correct. Okay. Oh, forgot about it. But I know I heard that.

No, I heard the wonderful news that you are planning on proposing to my sister can't wait to have you as a brother in law exclamation point someday. Stop. But not today. No, don't.

And explanation by it. Yes. Okay. However, comma. I felt there was something important to disclose before you propose.

All right. Now what our oldest sister just found out her husband wants a divorce. She's devastated. So tough time for our family.

She's obviously devastated. And then what about our family? No, she's obviously devastated. Don't listen to my voice.

I'm just throwing stuff out there. I wouldn't want anything to take away from the joy of your engagement. Okay. And thought you needed to know this information to decide when you want to propose.

Do you want to put that last part in there? Or do you just want to put just thought you wanted to know this information? Because if you start saying that before you propose and now he's getting this suggestion like well maybe I shouldn't do that at all.

He's probably going to say so what are you trying to say? Yeah, you have to be very clear. Yeah, because you'll just be like, okay, cool. And maybe you do keep it as it is. So the

judgment. I thought you needed to know this information before you propose in case you wanted to delay the proposal. Yeah.

You were late to put that in there. I'm sorry guys are always like we're not mine readers. Stop dropping hints. Like to say what you want. So that's what I'm that's what I think we need to do. This isn't the soft landing. We were talking about though.

No, it's not. I mean, we started soft. We just ended hard. Yeah. It's like a what's the chicken, the Olympics, carry scrugs or whatever and broker ankle.

We landed. We stuck it. We just have a broken. This sets of a really weird dynamic between the two of you in case he decides to propose anyway. So now he's

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