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The Daily Dad

Teach Them This To Give Them That

The Daily Dad

Daily Dad

Society & Culture, Dads, Relationships, Parenting, Self-improvement, Kids & Family, Ryan Holiday, Wisdom, Education, Fatherhood

4.8602 Ratings

🗓️ 28 November 2023

⏱️ 4 minutes

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Summary

We want happy kids, obviously. But as we talked about recently, you can’t make your kids happy. Certainly, you can’t always keep them happy.

So what do you do?

There’s a great exchange between Epictetus (we recommend his Discourses) and one of his students. The student is asking Epictetus to show him what to do so he can be wise and successful. This is the wrong request, Epictetus says. It would be better to ask how to be adaptable to circumstances.

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0:00.0

Welcome to the Daily Dad podcast where we provide one lesson every single day to help you with your most important job, being a parent.

0:15.6

I'm Ryan Holiday, and I draw these lessons from ancient philosophy, modern psychology, practical wisdom,

0:22.9

and insights from parents just like you all over the world. Thank you for listening,

0:29.4

and we hope this helps.

0:35.1

Teach them this to give them that. We want happy kids, obviously, but as we talked about recently,

0:41.5

you can't make your kids happy. Certainly you can't always keep them happy. So what do you do?

0:48.2

There's a great exchange between Epictetus in his discourses and one of his students. The student is

0:53.3

asking Epictetus to show him what he,

0:55.2

what to do so that it can be wise and successful. This is the wrong request, Epictetus says. It would

1:01.7

be better to ask how to be adaptable to circumstances. In a sense, this is also the secret to happiness,

1:09.8

and it's what we have to show our kids.

1:11.8

We can't give them happiness.

1:13.3

We can't even give them step-by-step instructions for achieving happiness.

1:17.3

We can show them how to be resilient, how to manage frustration, how to do hard things, how to focus

1:21.8

on process versus outcomes.

1:23.7

We can teach them how to be useful, to be empathetic, and how to love.

1:27.4

And then with these tools, they will be able to experience happiness. We can teach them how to be useful, to be empathetic and how to love.

1:31.6

And then with these tools, they will be able to experience happiness.

1:38.6

They won't be happy all the time because that's impossible, but they will be set up better than most people.

1:45.2

I was just talking to a guest on the Daily Stoak podcast the other day about making better decisions. And we're saying that instead of just magically getting, making better decisions, why don't you

1:49.5

just sleep better? And then you'll make better decisions. And if you're struggling to get a good

1:54.2

night's sleep, well, then I'm happy to introduce the Momentus sleep pack, your ticket to a night

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